Becky thanks, I think I fall into two catagories, I think he learned something when he did it so well before and when he gets frustraited because he is tired or whatever he gets a blank brain so to speak? You know when you get frustrated you can't think straight and I have to remember to deal with calming him down first, then remind him of how to do it. I am too quick to assume he knows it and is just trying to get out of it ( other kids have done this one) So I do need to check first if he really doesn't know it or if he is just having an attitude first lol. I do also think my kids have perfectionistic tendonsies (sp?) and need to get over that one! We can go no where in life if we think we HAVE to be the right one all the time. Anywa, thanks I am really enjoying the answers here!
I have read ( and tend to believe) that perfectionism is synonymous with pride. How would you deal with pride?
Not necessarily, I believe it is more of a fear of failure than pride. Like they have to be perfect or they are bad children. My son was a bit like that, he is better now though. We keep telling him that as long as he tries his best it is good enough, and we love him even if he is not perfect. It is slowly sinking in...
And the next day has to be a clean slate, just like a teacher would do. Even if you dread whatever subject brought on the problem, or no matter what was done or said, it's a new day and it should be water under the bridge. I'm quick to think 'oh, geeze. here we go again.', and I need to stop that.
Oh, yeah! Rachel is definitely this way! Usually in math. She HAS to have them all right, or feels like a failure. Out of 24 or so problems, if she misses one she's upset. I tell her, "It's STILL an A! And you definitely understand it. . . .you got ALL the others right." *sigh* Also with her spelling words. . . .has to spell them all right.
