lol.. he about has a heart attack when I say I'm going to feed the baby in the truck in a parking lot when we are near other vehicles.... I really could care less. I really thought he would die when I decided to nurse the baby while watching a ventriloquist at the local amusement park.. I had a nursing cover, but still he was really shocked that I would be so brazen. I guess it's ok for him to look at other girls boobs hanging out.. but it's not ok for me to whip mine out to feed the baby. About 2 or 3 weeks ago we went to a craft store.. we parked at the end of the lot where no one else was so I could feed the baby.. some guy in another truck made it a point to come drive around us.. and almost took of the front of my truck looking... I was so friggin pissed I wish hubby would have listened when I told him to follow that jerk that I would get the baby buckled on the way.
The only juggs your dh should be looking at are the juggs in your fridge. Tell your dh the next time his eyes wander you will take care of those wandering eyes by poking them out. LOL :lol:
LOL..well looks like I failed again at trying to put the shoe on the other foot!!! I can't imagine looking at another guy since 1) I love my dh, 2) I honor my commitments and have common sense and 3) who needs another guy! lol. Okay..so no compassion for those weak enough to allow temptation to control them!!! LOL. But it does bring up a good point, Becky, we can be tempted but not fall for it..that's the bottem line right? So, the men can recognize a temptation is in front of them but learn restraint. My dh has so much restraint I thought he must be from another planet. I always joke about it. lol. I think I'd worry more if a woman came up to him wrapped in enough money to get us out of debt and still have a trip to Hawaii! LOL.
i think guys are very visual, and that said, that is one reason i really try to remember to dress modestly when im not at home. now when im home i wear some skimpy stuff when its hot, but if i have to run to town, or if the farmers are around i change. my dh likes that i dress for him when hes here, so i try to give him that visual satisfaction HERE, where he needs it, so when he sees other girls out and about that are dressed skimpy, he does try not to look, but i would def have to step in front of him and give him my best "dont you dare" look" to help him out! that being said, it is easy for us girls to sometimes forget the power we have in our appearance over otherwise good dh who arent "looking" for something else. once in a while we are all home and i will start to run to town, and my dh will give me that look and im like "what" he says are you going to town dressed like that?? and i of course feel silly and embarressed bc no! of course i wouldnt want to have other men see me like he sees me,lol.
I wear what my husband likes and I feel comfortable in and dont care what anyone else thinks. I can appreciate a nice looking person male or female. If you look good you look good. BUT there is no excuse for a married man or married woman gawking and staring. My old neighbor (thank God they moved) used to not only gawk at other women right in front of his wife but say things in front of her about the other women. My husband and I could not believe that #1 he did something so blatantly disrespectful and #2 she did nothing and said nothing about it, ever. It was disgusting.
i totally agree tiffany, i know a guy like that, and my dh and he are somewhat friends, but he just kinda gives me the creeps, and my dh would knock him into next year if he ever tried anything, but anytime he sees me he puts his arm around my waist and says things like hi hun, how are you doing? i know that sounds innocent, but i dont feel comfortable with it, and his wife is standing right there usually so maybe he doesnt mean anything by it, but i would not like my dh do that and im sure his wife doesnt. i just try to shrug my way out of his armhold and make nice chat with his wife bc i in no way encourage his behaviour. one time they almost split bc he was messing around on her, and i know how i felt when my dh was dabbling with another girl, not all out cheating, but close enough in my book. i wont stand for it again, and he knows it. that said, i just meant we can do our part and help the guys out, lol. you know i for one wouldnt stand for my dh to be staring at some girl, but i dont appreciate the girl necessarily wearing clothes like that in public, you know my ds will one day notice things like that, and he will not be a mature man who can control his actions, he will be a young pubecent boy and i dont like girls flaunting their stuff in front of any of my men!!
Oh my gosh I love that!!! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would be upset with my DH. Those girls are a dime a dozen anymore and there is nothing really we can do about it unless we never go out. (not an option). Your Dh should at least try not to look. that is my 0.02.
I think I would be upset at DH, but I also get it. Men are wired differently than we are and are very sight stimulated. These girls need to cover up. It's a sin to cause a man to lust with his eyes. Today that seems to be the goal for these girls!
My DH is normal......... he isn't dead. But what irritates me............. mostly the kids!! why can't they remember to flush the toilet? why can't they put the lid on the tooth paste? why is there tooth paste on the wall? is it really that hard to put a sheet back on? is it that hard to put up their clothes?
On any given day our bathroom mirror looks like the freaking Milky Way galaxy from all the toothpaste splatters.:twisted:
Oh my gosh mine too! At least Samantha cleans the bathroom from time to time. Now my bathroom has double sinks and I swear my husband spits his toothpaste directly onto the faucet and handle! Make me so mad! I asked him once if he does that on purpose - I mean why can I spit into the actual sink yet he must spit everywhere else!
yes nasty! Thankfully we each have our own sink but I still have to clean that mess. I should buy stock in clorox wipes!
Okay, I have to say that as I am reading this my dh keeps pushing my laptop screen down. So at this moment he irritates me, lol.
I agree completely. I once read a book by William Temple, once an archbiship in England, I believe. He makes the point that our brains can only focus on one thing at any time - one image, one thought, etc. If we encounter something unholy or generally unwholesome, we should practice the mental discipline of moving that thought from our mind and replace it with another. It sounds easy, but it's not. As you point out, we're all human. Still, I agree with your husband: In such a situation, look away or sit in another seat or do whatever it takes to replace the image with another. The problem is particularly acute for the business traveler. These days, whenever I stay at a hotel, I try to disable the adult movie option. If it's not possible to do so, I just don't turn on the TV. Personally, I prefer to stay at the Marriott hotel chain because many of their hotels don't offer adult movie options.
Any place I've ever stayed you must pay to get to the adult stuff. In other words, you aren't even bothered with it unless you want to be. Unless you're in some total dive motel where they throw porn at you, there's no need to disable to adult stuff, cause it's not accessible unless you make it that way. Even if the hotel offers internet, you can reset the filtering before you go to any sites.
My dh has actually gotten up and switched seats with me before when that happened, so he's not facing toward that kind of thing. He makes a conscious choice to refuse to look. Sometimes when we're watching tv and the kids are not there, these stupid commercials come on with scantily clad women. He immediately looks at me. Sometimes I reward him for that by showing him what I've got. They're not as big as some of yours, but he likes'em! I'm not trying to sound bad by saying those things, it's just that I sooo appreciate his conscious choice to stay focused on ME! One time we were in Albuquerque, NM looking in some stores, and the lady said, "Did you know the Miss America Pageant is here? Many of the women are in town right now! Have you seen any of them?" Without skipping a beat, my dh said, "I don't need to see any of them, I've got the most beautiful woman right here" and kissed me! (be still my beating heart!) It's been like that since before we were married, and I'm the same way with choosing not to talk trash about him, and choosing not to look at other guys. I think that's why our marriage is going so strong still! 21 years and counting! It may be harder at first, but if they (and we) keep making that choice (and it helps when we "reward" them for it! ), it's not so hard, it's more natural as time goes by, and that's the way it should be!
lol.. I'm not sure how rewarding the girls are to him these days.. I have a feeling that even when here isn't a baby hanging from them he invisions it
