Oh my gosh I have laughed so much reading these post!!! We call our ds who is only 8 " Momma" because he tries to act like he is the parent. I thought I was loosing my mind, well honestly I might be, but he really is acting like a rooster!! I will have to go tell my dh.
In this region of the country the "rooster phase" is well-known, and further, it's described as the "bantam rooster phase" (locally called "banty") because the 9-11 year olds are so much smaller than their full-grown image of themselves! Kind of like the chihuahua that rules the neighborhood with its "big dog attitude"...
As a chicken owner, I can attest to the accuracy of this comparison! Primary reason our roosters became soup.
If they do something I don't want them to do I tell them alternative things they could have done. For example: Fighting over a toy. Instead of fighting with him you might try getting another toy and trading with him, talking nicely to him and asking please, or you could just wait till he is done with it. That way I'm not just saying Don't do that! It actually works really well with the boys. They do try my suggestions later I've noticed.
Ah, I understand! Brain fried completely lately... sorry 'bout that! LOL My DS is DEFINITELY a bantam -- he's only about the size of a 7 year old! Hahahaha!!
I agree, if your deal was for bed you have to honor that, BUT let him know that's why you are letting him. Tell him, next time, his other behaviors will be taken into account. As for chores and schoolwork, does he actually do them and complain or NOT do them? I'm pretty laid back about most, so I won't give advice there. :lol: My way is definitely not the way most handle that. But I'm curious as to whether he actually does the chore WHILE complaining. If so, it might be fun for you to do what I did with my son, which was to tape him one day (audio only! :angel. When he heard himself complain, he was the teeniest bit annoyed with himself and got a bit better. Rudeness? I haven't had to deal with that much -- bossy yes, but his sister is finally letting him know he can't do that anymore. And that's another story!
A little update! He had his sleepover and it went fine. They had a good time! He hasn't had any flat out tantrums lately, but he's still been picking on his sisters. He just get's really negative. For example, today my 6 yr old dd was saying she wanted some lip gloss for Christmas like her big sisters, but maybe in Dora or Diego packaging. My son said "NO, they don't have that! You can't get that becuase they don't make it!" Why does he do that?? It's not even true. He just says those types of things to be mean! But now they are playing very nicely in the living room together. I just don't get the boy sometimes.
Yep. My son does the same thing to his little brother. Constantly. It especially irks me because my older brothers, one in particular, used to do it to me. I was bullied a lot but could never tell because I got in trouble for tattling. So I do think I'm hyper sensitive to injustices and the sibling rivalry makes me insane! I wish I knew the solution. Just yesterday he thought I was out back and he cane in the house yelling at his little brother for nothing, just yelling in his meanest voice, "Luke, what are you doing!?" in a way that was obviously meant to scare him. As soon as he saw me there his tone changed in a wink. Grrr...
