friend told me to put kids back in ps

I say this as someone who can relate to the weight and exercise issue. Although I have not put my weight back on, it is a constant battle. A friend of mine has lost about 15 lbs. All she did was drink water a little before she ate a meal. This caused her to feel more full and she ate less. I try to not to eat anything after supper.

I'd suggested just making a small change vs. waiting until you can do it all. It sounds like your life is very busy right now, don't feel like it has to be an all or nothing. You may also ask if you can apply this to school for the kids. Sometimes it's better to focus on a couple areas and get the most out of those, then to feel like you have to get it all. The main goal in hsing is to teach your child how to learn, not having them memorize facts. The gaps can be filled in later.

 

Your weight is important to you and she knows it and she should not have used it to try to get you to ps. It might make her egofeel better if you put your kids in ps, maybe she kind of feels a sense of failure that she did, who knows?

Is it possible to do physical activites as part of your hs? Like nature walks, hiking, tramping, kicking a ball around at a park, going for a swim? Whatever you're into and is available to you. Call it phys ed . Could you make healthy eating a hs topic? So the whole family gets involved and you don't have to prepare two different menus. Call it health and nutrition or home economics .

Just random thoughts I had caffiene and I normally have a caffiene free diet. BUZZ!!! :lol: Sorry.

 

This is one of my soap boxes. If you have spent time teaching your kids, having them experience that whenever they have a problem, Mom will work with me to find a solution as best we can, then you build a bond of trust that will stand you in good stead as they are teenagers. They realize that you don't know everything, but they also realize that you have answers or will find the answers they need to whatever life brings. Especially with learning problems, I would not put my kids back in ps for hs for all the tea in China. You are doing a great job, you are demonstrating flexibility and teaching your kids that there is always another way to skin a cat. I know that at times the burden of molding our kids into adults seems a load too large to bear, but we can do it! I have 5 kids, all but 1 arrived here as super shy children. Now I have 3 extremely social kids. The other two, one is 4 and one is 21. 4 year old is a work in progress, 21 yo we laughingly called our hermit as a teen, and she is still the same way. She functions well socially on the outside, but then she has to sleep, because it wears her out. She knows just what she wants, and has a confident bearing that makes people trust her and her abilities so they give her the opportunity to get it. I didn't teach her that, it's part of her personality. We are in the South, which means people stop kids and talk to them and they are expected to answer politely. I think that alone has helped my kids socially. We role-play at home so they have a set of replies to give when someone talks to them. My dad has a primitive campground that he set up near a national forest for himself and all his horse riding friends. He says everyone is really impressed with the fact that my kids can carry-on a conversation with whomever is there, kid or adult, and I would say that has been my experience with 80% of homeschooled kids. Some can only handle one adult at a time and some thrive in a huge crowd, but the basic ability to have something to say and speak in complete sentences without looking bored or put-upon to have to talk to someone much younger or older is a homeschool trait in my opinion.

In short, even if you aren't getting the exercise you need for your body, you are doing a good job! You are a great parent who has her kids best interests first and foremost! No more beating yourself up!

Jennifer, mom to
Caitlyn, 21 1 month from graduating college (yay!)
Ansley, 12
Megan, 11
Sarah, 8
Rebecca, 4

 

My take on this is; my adult children one went out for all of high school-- he has the hardest time social type stuff. My child who went up to 11th at home and then I followed to her senior class in a school that basically in class home schools, has a ton of friends, older and younger than her age, her own age, just a few mainly opposite sex just friends kind of guys and a couple girls cause the one thing she learned in her one year out was that girls are rude and snobby and mean. Lol! I kept her home for that! hehe.
She IS finding it hard to please the teacher in college which is what she found in her first month of English she had to do. Once she got it down she got an A on the last big Essay!
so I think I can safely say its not the home schooling that does it, I agree with Krista it has to do with the adults involved in the child's life.

 

And there are not any public schooled kids that are struggling socially??? Home educated children do far better socially than do their public schooled peers. I promise you that. I have been home educating for 19 going on 20 yrs and have already graduated 14 of our 15 DC. We were FAR more "unsociable" than most home educators and mine still did great. They could interact with all ages and they married and have families of their own now (whom they are also home educating). Sorry , but your friend has NO idea what she is talking about. Children are harmed every day in these "social" institutions!!!