My 15 year old niece is developmentally challenged. She is mentally about 8-10 if that. She just got her first boyfriend a few weeks ago, another boy like her. I never got to meet him, but my SIL said he was very sweet. Yesterday morning he was hit by a truck and killed. I am really scared how this will affect her. Please keep her and the boys family in your thoughts and prayers. Thank you all so much :love:
My heart just broke when I read about your neice's boyfriend. I will be praying for her and the young man's family. I am so very sorry this has happened. Beth
oh my goodness that's awful! I'm so sorry to hear about that. I'll be keep your niece and his family in my thoughts and prayers.
Thank you guys! She is spending the day with me.. we are going to see a little play and out to lunch and Wal-mart. She has been here an hour and half already and hasn't said more than 10 words total.. and those I prompted out of her. I haven't decided if I want to bring up the subject or just let her bring it up when she is ready to.
Oh, I'm so sorry.. I'm praying for her, too, and for wisdom for you and your family. And for the boy's family, too!
Thank you all again so much. She just left, and I guess is coming back tomarrow. I feel so bad because she really doesn't even understand what is going on. My MIL (her nana) went and picked her up last night because all the neighborhood kids kept coming last yesterday and as she put it "crying with her" and my MIL felt she needed to be taken away from that.. I feel that taking her away from it is the wrong thing to do.. she needs to understand what happened, and she needs to learn the grieving process. After watching her I have learned that emotionally she is about 5, she knows he is gone and that he was hit by a van (I had been told it was a truck), but she doesn't even come close to understanding it all. I guess I try to teach my children with the school of hard knocks, I would want them to experience the whole process. I remember in highschool when a friend was in a bad car accident and was killed... one of the biggest healing aspects for all of us was to go to school the next day and cry about it together... it also just happened that the next day was "group picture day" so you can imagine some of those mascara stained faces!
Just a thought- when my dad passed away my boys were very young, as well as their cousins. They were very confused by all of the tears and hugs and were a little scared of all that. They took some time to understand that they wouldn't see Grandpa again, but they understood (and felt more deeply) the anxiety of all the sorrow. Maybe removing her from some of that so that she CAN process her grief will be helpful? (If she doesn't understand why others are crying and telling her how sorry they are will it make her more anxious?) Hope that made sense, and will keep her (and his family) in our prayers! MT3
How very sad! I will pray for her and his family. I'll also pray that God will direct you and her family on what is best for her. My heart goes out to her.
Praying for her here, and for those surrounding her! Hopefully she can process it enough to work it out, and be OK!
Thank you all once again. I asked my MIL to please stay home with her today because my son decided to have a huge "breakdown" (for lack of a better term for his fit) last night so right now I needed to focus on my little family.
Still praying for your neice. I can remember a friend of my dying in a house fire and all of my friend greiving together it was what we needed. I hope things are ok with your son, I have a preaty good boy but when he acts out its usually huge. Praying for you all!
Thank you Amy.. I must have one of the most trying 8 year olds in the world! I am always at a loss at what to do with him.. I was a good kid.. really good I remember crying if my homework wasn't finished before supper lol... it is so hard for me to handle him... we have tried every "how to reform your out of control child" method ever invented and nothing has done the trick. They say he's not ADD or ADHD because he can sit and play video games for hours.. ummm yeah video games give a diagnosis ok..lol. I have set a goal for myself today to study bipolar and see if that could fit him
I will keep her in my prayers, and also want to add that we all greive differently, My oldest goes silent and handles it well. My dd gets grumpy but fights tears, and my youngest pours out the tears and talks about what it is that is bothering him.
