my son can play vedio games for hours too, I don't get how that plays into diagnosising add or adhd. My son has a diagnosis of adhd, odd and depression. The depression they say is in remission. But when stress is high or he has a hard time expressing himself we still have meltdowns. My ds is 12 and lately we have one meltdown a month. And the rest of the month he is sweet a pie. A good book to read is The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene. When my ds was younger this book helped a lot. If you ever need to talk PM me, I'm here and understand your pain. Its hard to handle, I have often wonder what I have done wrong and at times have no clue what to do. We just take one day at a time. BIG HUGS FROM ME TO YOU!!!
crazymama, I have a 9 yr old son who has been trying up to this year.. Ihave noticed such a change in him calming down, and focused and everything. Prior to this year I was upset because two of my friends sons who have always been his best friends both are now medicated. ( not sure the diagnosises there they are different types) Both boys were 'wild boys' along with my son prior to this, one has calmed a lot. and the other I don't really see the difference he is still extreme. Hes a good kid but way too intense for too many over nighters! Now my son seemed as though he was just as wild as the others up until I started making him stay home more, sleep more and watched what he ate. We tried removing sugar, it was not that, but we did find that he was like me when it came to cafine, and like my dd, and it focused him but did not make him hyper. So for a while I would give him a cup of half milk half coffee, if he was having a hard time sleeping at night or staying focused at baseball. It worked for the time. I also prayed. Which is the point I am getting to... I prayed that God would help me to see the good things and not the 'bad' in my child and he showed me a scripture that said to speak good into things... not bad. ( thats a major paraphrase I will look up the scripture again if you need it) So When I would hear someone say he was one of the three muskateers, the three wild boys etc, I woudl call them on it, and tell them no, he's getting better. I woudl point out good things about him, how good he was at reading his bible verses, and singing and computer things... in the mean while I talked to him about it and said, you are different, and you have to work on behaving. He learned early in life everyone knew his name wherever we went, so I explained that was partly because I had called his name out loud, so I stopped that too! What I had worried was something that would be diagnosed turned out to be a need for attention from mom, and extra sleep! We have Mom n me times, and Dad n me times for this child, more than the other two too, because he needs more one on one. I started reading things artilces mostly on behaviors and remembered birth order has a lot to do with some of them too! He is our baby, so he got drug along the way a bit too. The third child thing and all that, he was a follower who did not want to follow. he now listens better, and focuses to his school work, does stil back talk but hes a young boy and we have to call him on that too. I am not trying to tell you what to do but do begin with prayer, and encoruagment while you are seeking your answers. I will be praying for you! Be blessed today!
