Adios

Well, im sure you have all been aware of the issues this past month or so involving me on this board, and i was told by aball that she would be just as happy if i stopped coming here at all, so i guess i will grant her wish. Merry Christmas, i'll leave.

But bf i go, i do want to tell you all how much i really enjoyed getting to know you, and how much i learned from you all. Mamabear, Squarepeg, Midwest, Lee, Annam, Birbett, and anyone im forgetting, thank you for all your support and for chatting with me. I will still be in the chat room, and im sure you know where that is by now, if not you can ask one of the above mentioned to direct you.

Also Jennerix, thank you for the help earlier with uploading pics and all the pc stuff i was not familiar with. Have a good year, and if you need to you can email me, i have a couple of other forums i love to sift through when time allows, so if you need any advice on other good sites, let me know.

Sorry for the drama that i brought. heather

 

Are you really going to let one person's opinion run you off? Hope not, as I think everyone is a valuable asset here.

 

Heather, I don't know what all this is about, but I also would be sorry to see you go.

 

(((((((((((Heather))))))))))))

You are underestimating how many people love you here and want you to stay. I feel it is important to tell others that you care for them so they know. Life is too short to do otherwise. So girlfriend, here is a great big hug from me to you, love ya! ((((HUGGS)))) Stick around, we need you.

 

Honestly, from this post, I rather doubt you're all that sorry about causing drama.

 

You know, Shelley, I have no idea what the original "drama" was all about. But I find YOUR remark very offensive. The only purpose of it was to continue a previous argument, which I don't appreciate.

 

Shelley,

Your comment does not help the situation. A little kindness and compassion is in order. :love:

 

I think it's more then a little unfair to imply what you have about Amy when a) whatever conversations you were having with her, we're not (and shouldn't be) privy to and b) as a moderator she's not in a position to defend herself.

I've always known Amy to be considerate, thoughtful and fair and so I'm going to assume that the impression you may have gotten from her is not necessarily what she said or meant. I suspect there's been a communication problem along the way and I know you have some misunderstandings of the technical pressures on message boards.

It's not a big deal to take a breath, back away from the issue and approach it again with a more open perspective and I wish you'd try that rather then be so willing to leave us all over this. If that's not an option then I wish you luck and I hope you find a community that's a better fit for you.

 

Consider me a person with little or no compassion if you must but I agree with Shelley.

From what I have read from Amanda's post, Amy did the right thing. She handled things correctly. I do not want Heather to leave either, but honestly, I can see what Shelley is talking about. Why is it necessary for anything else to be posted about Amy. If Heather is going to leave, she needs to do it quietly. If she is going to stay, she needs to let it rest and jump in like old times. I am sorry this happened, no matter who was right or wrong. Personally, I see Heather's persistance to publicly post what Amy told her in private as an attempt to keep this going. If Amanda had not validated what Amy did, I might see things differently, but she did. She also shared in the last thread that was closed that it wasn't right that Heather publicly posted something about Amy and now Heather did it again.

Awww! By the way, I still love you all! :angel:

 

The OP implied some potentially hurtful things about another member. I don't think Shelly was out of line in pointing that out.

 

I have to agree with Shelley and Patty here, sorry.

This post alone just screams that she was looking for more drama, and I had this funny feeling that she would be here to try to see what kind of drama she could stir up today... and most of the morning her little green light has been on, and even when it is off, it doesn't mean she didn't figure out how to make herself invisible so that no one knows that she is here lurking..

I do think that she is very wrong for binging into public a private conversation, and I do think she is wrong for trying to smear Amy as a moderator, I think Amy (ABall) does a great job here and knows when she should step in and when things are running smoothly to leave them alone.

 

I was not making reference to whether or not Amy did the right thing or her abilities as our moderator. We have to remember that there are two sides to every story and we should treat each other in a dignified and respectful manner. I didn't post so someone could jump me for being compassionate, I just wanted Heather to know that I wanted her to stay.

Nobody knows what is truly in someone's heart, so I prefer to take a compassionate approach and give that person the benefit of the doubt. We aren't responsible for what others say but we are responsible for what comes out of our own mouth's so I would like kind words to come out of my mouth.

I love you all too! (((( ))))

Blessings!

 

wow, gone for a day and darn board fall apart.. what the heak is going on? I think everyone is getting to much cold air or something....
wow the world is falling apart...



now lets all take a deep breath and do what we got to do, if we have to leave, leave and don't take anyone down with you as you are going. If you are staying, stay and have fun....
this is a great board I learned alot from this board, some things I will keep with me forever others I take with a gain of salt. But, isn't that life when you mix a bunch of people together.
sometimes when you write something on the board here and ask for others opinon you might get it and might not like it but then again it might be the best thing that ever happen to you... so if you write something and don't like the answer then think twice before you push the button to post...


We are suppose to be a all adult board, we should act it what are we showing our children?

 

^^^ Passes the popcorn >>>>

 

i agree!

 

that is what I was trying to say Jen but it took more words to get it out.. thanks...

 

You left us for a whole day. How can you expect the board to operate smoothly when you leave us for so long?

 

quotes from your "perfect" mod

take it how you want, i was really just sticking by my post to see who could see past the "perfect" image of aball, i have said over and over, it had nothing to do with her personally, i just felt that if that was the rule, than it should be made known to everyone, not just me.

and personally, if aball didnt want how she feels about me to be made known, than she should have just left it alone, and let amanda handle it, which, would have been fine with me, but she persisted in pming me hatefully trying to get me to respond, so i decided, hey, if she really doesnt want me here, i have other forums that i am wanted.

you are each entitled to your own opinion, and i get that, so it's ok to support her no ?s asked. at least it shows loyalty, and that is a very exceptional quality to have, i just wanted you to know why i left, so once again it is taken wrong. i thought we were all adults, does that mean we have to think and feel the exact same way about everything????

 

I dunno I thought my buddy would check it and keep the place in line...

 

no but we shouldn't bash anyone either, we don't know the other side of it. Alot of us have been here along time and know Aball and she is very helpful, fun, and a wonderful person.

We do love everyone here. sometimes peoples buttons get push to hard.. but hay that's life. we got to do what we got to do.