Whenever I am stressed about something, or he asks me what is wrong...I tell him, then I usually get the response, "I know how you feel". Not that I don't find comfort in him knowing how I feel, but it's annoying. When I feel stressed I want him to comfort me and try to make me feel better, not turn it around on him. Does that make sense? As selfish as it seems, I just want him to think for one minute about ME being upset, say he's sorry for how I am feeling and try to comfort me. I don't want to hear "I know how you feel"....just think about how I FEEL for once, ok??? UGH! Ok, I feel a tad better. Thanks for listening.:love:
Nope JenPooh my dh is perfect. LOL just trying to get a laugh out of you girl, I know when you are stress a laugh helps. Jennie, men are something, sometimes, very self center and think about them self first. Maybe if he is thinking if you hear it's bother him you are not alone. I dunno. Anyway, Jennie, you know what they say you can't live with them and you can't live without them. Hang in there, come here and cry on our shoulders we will feel sorry for you girl.
Don't get me wrong. I have a wonderful husband. He does so much...helps with cleaning, laundry, etc. He takes care of our children while I am at work. He really does do a lot. But when I'm stressed, I want him to focus on ME and my problems. How is someone suppose to feel better if they can't focus on their issues and deal with them? If he's stressed and he needs to talk, I always let him vent and I ask him if there is anything I can do and offer advice, and I tell him I feel sorry for how he's feeling. I want that in return! *hrumph* Men.
Men turn my stomach and pluck my last nerve. At least yours comments. My passive aggressive spouse doesn't even comment. When I ask to make sure he heard me, he's like 'Well, what do you want me to say?' I feel like saying 'How about" You're right and I'm wrong, even if I say something out in a deserted forest and nobody hears me say it."!'
No but mine always says "I'm sorry babe" if I am venting or talk to him when I am stressed. Standard response. I want to tell him "why are you sorry you didn't do anything, just listen please!" But I love him to death he is such an awesome husband.
I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I just want my dh to say, "You are an amazing mother and wife and I just want you to know that I'm here for you...what can I do for you?" What I usually get from my dh is, "my day was worse than yours.......". It does get exhausting always trying to easing dh's bad days, and I get nothing in return!?! Sigh!! Michelle
So, I get home from work today. I am crabby I admit. Not that great of a night. He asks what's wrong and if I'm mad at him. I said, "Not anymore, now I'm mad at work.". Then he asks what happened and all. I looked at him and said "you're not going to say I know how you feel?". He then says, "No, I learned that lesson last time you yelled at me for it!". LOL HAHAHA! I just laughed, because I thought of this post and then he goes and makes me look like a fool. LOL He actually listened to what I told him last time!!! Halleluia! LOL Anyways, I did bring it up again and then he asked what I'd like him to reply with instead. So, I gave him a short list of acceptable things to say and do to make me feel better. LOL
