My Mother died last month. I have had her mail sent to my home. Today she rec'd a card from her childhood-old age friend, it read: Hey Girl, Where are you, I've tried to call, but your phone is disconnected........ I had to call her, it was hard, I have never met the lady, she was very gracious and appreciative. Anyway, appreciate your friends, they won't be here forever. Mary
Oh Mary how sad for both of you. We went through stuff like that when Daddy died and it hurt so much. I hated telling his friends that didn't know. They would see me and say aren't you Bob's girl? I would say yes and they would say well how is he doing we went to school and played football together. Then I would have to tell them and you could see them age right before your eyes. It never got easy. Mama would get phone calls for him even several months after he died. It was so hard to deal with. You are so right to say appreciate you friends now. My grandmother was a florist and made many funeral arrangments. She always said to give her her flowers while she was living she didn't need them after she was gone. I think I need to go call my friend from church now. Beth
Telling friends of a deceased parents isn't an easy thing to do. When my MIL passed on, I was the one to inform her friends. While it was difficult, I did learn more about MIL. It was nice to hear about her younger days and I would pass these on to DH.
We just recently (2 weeks ago) went to the funeral of my mothers childhood best friend. They lived in separate states, but stayed close at heart for many, many years. I was so thankful for the opportunity to go with my family (including my parents) to the funeral. We saw many old friends of my parents and they had the chance to catch up a little. It is a weird thing to experience such joy and sadness at the same time. Joy of seeing old friends and sadness of knowing this probably won't happen again. I am sorry for the loss of your mother and hope you are doing well.
I am sorry you had to do that but on the bright side, your mom was a lady who had friends because she must of been a good person. She is still thought of and loved through her life and now in death. She must have been a special lady for an old childhood friend to still keep in touch with her. The friend probably has some wonderful memories and stories to share with you about your mom. What a blessing to be able to come in contact with her.:angel: :angel: Thanks for sharing. Your post touched my heart. Patty
Yes, I'm sorry for your loss, and having to tell old friends is tough! Maybe you could have some of these old friends write their memories of her down and send to you along with copies of any picutres they may have of that time, and of them now. You could make up an album of memories with the pictures put in beside the written memories.
first of all HUGS! I really feel for you! My sister had to do the same thing. She had to notify one of my moms friends that she had been trying to contact the month before she died last September that she had died. It was hard but she just emailed her back with the information and let the woman know how much she meant to my mom. It is never easy to tell someone your mother died. I still cry. HUgs to you Merryone. T
Hugs, Hugs, Hugs, I understand, my mom has been gone for 8 years now and it still is sad, although, I cherish all the memories.
My mom is STILL getting calls for my dad - even though he died 7 years ago. It never gets any easier. I feel for you....
