Do any of you have kids who fight ALL the time? I mean, if I am not occupying them, they are fighting about something. My two middle ones would be happy to have the other one gone, if you know what I mean, and they are driving me crazy. I have to say that it is usually the boy stirring the pot, it's just that my 2nd daughter reacts more than the other two, who tend to ignore him.
All I have to say is Dr. Leman! He's written a ton of books on child discipline and he has some great things to say about that issue. But I think the just of it is making them take ownership of their behaviour and their relationships with each other. I'm sorry your having to deal with this right now, it really makes the days long and difficult!
Well, my kids are still little... 4 and 2. But yes, they fight constantly. Just like you said, if they're not occupied, they're fighting. And even when they are occupied, they sometimes stop to have a spat. lol It drives me CUH-RAZY! Off to google Dr. Leman
Mine go through cycles of fighting non-stop and then they are best friends. I think that when my kids are going through their fighting cycle, it is because they need an outlet for their energy. I notice that if I send them outside to play that they come back in later much happier.
My oldest two are always bickering! It's MY turn, or he's touching me, or he's being mean to me, or don't talk to me that way, or your hurt my feelings, or something...However, when it comes to someone else picking on one of them they won't stand for it, so the way I see it they are doing just like brothers should do! The fighting will come to an end some day, and they'll be all the better friends and someday they'll look back on it and laugh about how silly their fights were. Honestly we as adults sometimes bicker with people we spend too much time with, we can't expect children to behave better than we do.
My kids do that as well. I think it's just part of growing up. But, I'm trying to disipline in a way to make a impact. When my kids do something like that I have them put their forheads together and say 10 things they like about each other. By the time they are done they are usually laughing really hard. It keeps me from getting stressed out about it. When they aren't fighting and have been that week. When it comes time for chores I make them serve each other. My son cleans my daughter room and vise vera. It must be done well. It takes a bit but they are 9 and 10 and are getting the point.
good I am not alone. I just happen to have one of those days today. It will get to a point where I say it's rest time and everyone takesa break in their rooms.
Is there a certain situation that increases the likelihood of fighting? Our girls make their own breakfasts, lunches and snacks. We had a period where every time they were in the kitchen, someone was fighting.... usually because they were getting in each others' way. So, we have them go into the kitchen one at a time now... same thing with the bathroom. We had to tell them, "only one person in the bathroom at a time," otherwise they were fighting over the mirror. Now, our only problem is my 11 yo and 14 yo. My 11 yo wants the 14 yo to play make believe games with her and my 14 yo just isn't interested in that so much any more.
wow my kids don't do that they are angels. LOL no just kidding I think every kid goes through that.. Its nature. Anyway when my kids get in that mood I say chore time ok go do this and that. Wow you wouldn't believe how well things turn around.
It's actually good for kids to quarrel as it let's them learn positive conflict resolution. That way as adults they will be better equipped to handle others who aren't being so nice to them. It is a necessary but unpleasant part of childhood. And some siblings just plain don't get along due to personality issues.
My two oldest think it's great fun to fight with each other. It drives me insane. I have found that they knock it off much better when I make them hug and kiss each other! They really hate that! ha!
