Honey, my dad died when I was 48, and he STILL wasn't finished "raising me". Pay your mom the respect you want her to give to you. When she says, "Did you ...(whatever)...?" just answer truthfully, "Yes, mom, I did." and let it go. Every now and then, "report" to her unasked (Mom, I did x today.") You may have to spend the next 30 years of your life (like I did) doing that, but in the grand scheme of things, "Honor thy mother and thy father that thy days may be long upon the earth." (You may not live longer, but it'll probably SEEM like it! LOL) My dd and I just had this conversation. She's 37. Somehow, every time I asked her anything, or suggested something, I meant it as a helpful suggestion, or as an invitation to discuss a topic, but what she heard was "you're an idiot who can't be trusted to make an intelligent decision." I NEVER meant that to be what she heard! How it ended up that that's what she heard, I will NEVER know!
Lindina, those are excellent comments. I don't have children this age, but I just read through a FB conversation between my SIL and my teenage niece. It was really interesting to read, from the "outside," how each one was concerned about completely different aspect of the conversation, even though it was about something as simple as confirming a time.
I'm not sure exactly whats going on, guessing it was about your mom, I think many of us probably understand.......... Get some chocolate.
