I am not sure....I know that I have happiness in me - somewhere - and occasionally it pops up just to remind me it's there...but in the overall scheme of things - I feel heavy - like the world is heavy, can't be bothered with the fight outside the 4 walls - the children are the most important thing....then I kick myself and make us go out somewhere - even if only to the shops....then I'm back to the house and plod on. That is probably it - life feels like a plod sometimes - feel I've lost my spark....feel grrr to all people who want everything their own way and wonder when it will be my children's turn to have theirs....and just get disillusioned with every passing day about other people.... MMmmm could this be hormones????????? or just in need of a holiday to lift the spirit?
When you find out, please let me know lol! I feel the same way lately. I usually can beat off my funks but this one is wanting to be persistent.
I, too, know the feeling. But I think we have to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps and continue on. When I get feeling bad like that I usually take a couple of days to do exactly what I want to do - as long as there is enough laundry done and enough food to eat those few days, I don't do housework, I don't grocery shop, I just relax and spend time doing what I want to do (which is usually reading or playing on the internet LOL). Then I usually feel refreshed and ready to take on the world again. I find it happens more so lately, and I credit that to the fact that we've been in a tough financial state the last 4-5 months. But a little break from the monotony always helps. If you can, I recommend a little holiday for sure.
I had a pretty shocking morning - non-compliant children.....however, we managed this afternoon to get out to see a friend for a few hours - the children went off and played largely without incident, gripe or moan, and somehow, I feel a little refreshed right now.... Perhaps Pecan is right - its a bit of burn out and need to do some other stuff....had a busy "family duty" weekend so there was no down time then either.... Hummmm - hot bath and hot chocolate called for I think tonight!
I spent the last year sinking into that same thing. This might not at all be your root trouble, but I finally figured out that I felt like I was "doing life" alone. Dh is great, totally rocks at housework and all things family, but we had not connected like friends in a long time. I was lonely and frazzled being consumed with the mom role and had been neglecting my wife role....well, not part of the wife role that keeps Dh happy, but the part of the wife role that needs to feel a strong bond with her hubby. Just a thought in case this might be your trouble and it would save you potentially a year of trying to figure it out. :lol:
@Brooke I so relate. I am feeling that too lately and in large part it is likely making me feel like the original Op as well. Working on it takes time.
Oh Sweetie I think we all through that one time or another. It could be weather or we just need a little get away to see things differently and come back and all seems well. Sometimes a mini vacation is all it takes. (((HUGS))) take a deep breathe I am sure all will be ok. Just step outside and plan a little get away and hope things get better. Remember we are here for ya!
Thanks Kris....you are most probably right - we had a holiday early in the year and it turned out to be a very damp squib and actually didn't feel like we had a relaxing holiday as we had to entertain the children all the time as it was too cold and damp to be down on the beach all the time and let them roam and play. We're hoping to go away again later in the year but DH has to save his holiday for later on in the year as I have to have surgery and he has to be on rug-rat duties....so, time is very limited....maybe some camping at some point might be an option... I think its just a dip and I think personality plays a big part too and I am definitely a people person and need to see people every day....and that charges my battery... I know this group is a great support and I am just grateful I found it. xxx SS
