Well, I was just wondering if anyone has survived this situation! I am 50 with 13yo twins in puberty (boy and girl). They have not been so bad, but I am hot, cranky and hungry! I am trying to get everything organized for the school year to keep the stress low. Any tips or words of encouragement?
I'm right there with you! You have my utmost sympathy. Mine's 12 and I'm 47. If you succeed in keeping your stress level low, PLEASE tell me your secret.:wink: Marty
I don't have any advice, unfortunately, but you have my sympathy, also! I will be 44 this year, and I have a 15 year old, a 14 year old, and an 8 yr old, all girls. Once a month, both the oldest two get hormonal at the same time, ugh! I wouldn't trade my DDs, but between the three of them, there is drama every day, lol.
Dr James Dobson once said that God must really have a sense of humor to cause mom's menopause and daughter's puberty to happen at roughly the same time! I'm only 39, but I'm showing all the signs of early menopause. I just had a really honest talk with dd and told her that certain days are going to be really rough for the two of us. My hot flashes and sleep interuptions and forgetfulness are going to clash with her mood swings and crying jags. We need to remember that we are in this together and we need each other as "team support". We have a code. When she is moody, I ask her if she needs M&Ms, and she smiles and gets the hint that she's being a witch(then I give the girl some chocolate!). LOL. If I'm irritable and hot, she asks me if I need a nursing home!LOL. We try to keep a sense of humor about it. Poor ds is so confused some days that I think it's harder on him than it is on us! He'll roll his eyes and ask, "Is this about girl stuff?" Hehehe. I also know my limits stress-wise. I don't even try to do planning and organizing when my concentration is shot. It's not worth the aggravation. I just do it later when I'm in a different frame of mind.
yep its a rough stage to go through. I been asking who invented menopause someone told me God I said no way would God do this to us. Hang in there and take a break if you need it.
I'm stepping my toes in here too. Three teenagers and menopause go hand in hand with a straight jacket and padded walls. Someone is bound to get their feelings hurt. I'm really trying to ignore the whole process and embrace not having to send hubby to the store for me. LOL!
I know this may not be popular but I am on HRT. Talk with your doctor. There are options that are "bioidentical". Also, you really need to do something each day to take care of yourself. Do something you enjoy for just you! We ALL need to do that! And, once you "stop", it does get better. Hugs, Pam
I'm thinking the bioidentical route! We will see. I find I am making lists all the time so I don't forget to do something or buy something! I have had to tell my family that if they need something, don't tell me, write it down! As for the kids, ds is giving me more grief than dd! I figured it would be the other way around.....
