When I was dx'ed with MS last year, SO many approached me knowing that I would no longer be homeschooling. I still have a friend who, love her as I do, really believes I should put them in school. I can take it from her- her kids were in school lightyears ago and she truly has no idea what it's like now. But thats beside the point. Sometimes it can be frustrating to feel as though my kids spend more time taking care of their siblings than I do. It doesn't last for long periods of time, my flares end and I can move about more easily again. But it is hard. Whats my point? I'm not sure. A safe place to be frustrated with my lack of ability without worrying about someoen saying "you should put your kids in school" maybe? Does anyone else out there struggle mightily to keep up with housework - and still fight a losing battle?
My husband has had uncontrollable high blood pressure for about a year now. In January he found it impossible sometimes to work. Now - he hardly ever works. The medication he is on makes it impossible for him to drive and when his medication takes effect sometimes he actually falls asleep - wherever he may be. He has always been the earner and I took care of things at home. Now I feel like I am taking care of many more things than I use to. Makes me mad, sad and determined to not let it get me down(most of the time). We have had to apply for food stamps and he wanted to apply for Disability. I went along and filled out all the paperwork and told everyone our life story. We have had to sell things we have had for years just to pay the bills. About the housework - I started on a kick yesterday, I decided I would try to make things as simple as possible. I started in the kitchen and cleaned it out! I am only keeping things i need or use regularly. I plan to move to the other rooms as soon as possible. I keep feeling like it would be better for the kids to have them in school away from the tension, with activities to participate in... Then I snap back and realize that sometimes my worst is better than public schools best. I also feel much safer with them here. When my husband does have a job(we are in construction) that is close - I drive and work with him for just a few hours. Which leaves the kids to their schoolwork with Grandma who lives next door. Anyway - I know about trying to keep up with the housework - it is very frustrating. The laundry is endless and the dishes and the stuff left in the floor and the schoolwork and the messy kids rooms. Anyway - I will pray for your health and your peace with feeling "a lack of inability" sometimes. We ALL feel that way occasionally. I also hope this is a safe place to feel frustrated. I need these ladies! Sabrina
blood pressure and Ms I can say that I have dealing with both of these areas. My mom has ALS (a form of MS) and I was her caregiver. As a 21 year old that was a hard but great experience. We grew so close that I ended up losing my best friend. It was all worth the efforts. ALS is a short term illness where MS can live a long full life. I know your kids love you and want to be with you and help you any way they can. They may get tired but it isn't due to not loving you. Hang in there. They need you and you need them. In the end it will be worth it. I am sure they are getting as much as they would in PS. School on good days and take bad days off. There are 365 days a year to get school done. blood pressure. My husband has had bad rounds with it. I got a call one night from work that they were taking him in an ambulance to the hospital. I had a vomiting child at home that night too. I called my Dad the only thing I knew to do. He went to the hospital for me. I felt bad but what do you do. Then he has had another big round this year. Now at 37 he is on blood pressure meds. This time I thought his attitude was bad and that he was ill with us alot of the time. He said he could tell it but just couldn't controll his moods at all. They are better now with the meds. He also feels better now. We have a very large yard and last year he had trouble getting the grass cut and weed eated. He would just give out during the time of trying to cut it all. I do hope you and your husband can get him the help he needs. It is a very stressful time for both of you. Praying for you both, MS and blood pressure. Lorna
Lorna - Did his bp get better with change of meds? All they seem to do when we go is add more of the same. They changed it one time from Norvasc to Lotril and I told him he had to change it back - he was really more irritable than usual. He is on Clonidine - this is what causes the side effects, but apparantly there is no alternative. Hopefully his doc will be able to figure out something. He had an echocardiogram and he said his heart was fine except that it was "working out" and was thick instead of thin like they like to have them and that it should get better if his blood pressure is down. He was 39 in March. Thanks for the experienced ear. Sabrina
meds for bp Scott is now on Diovon tabs. He also took many of the ones you listed and they caused side effects too. Maybe ask about this one.
