Keep going! Remember to pray for God to change you if that be needed too. The bad part is sometimes we both need to change and meet in the middle somewhere. Prayer does work. It may just take time. LOL
Hello Tandy in Arizona here. Well, let me take a deep breath. It all started the summer before I went into 4th grade. My parents had been divorced since I was two and we would spend summers with my dad. We went to meet my mom at a horse event and she wanted to introduce us to her boyfriend. (no I did not marry my moms boyfriend, lol) So we met the boyfriend and then we met his kids. We went to meet his son and he came to the camper door, shirt unbuttoned a couple of snaps like the "Duke boys" (of which was his favorite show) he thought that he look soooooo cool. I remember thinking "he is kinda dorky with his shirt all unbuttoned." So our parents dated for about two years and we sort of lived with each other off and on. You know like we would stay the night at his house or they would stay the night at ours. During this time we had our little kid kind of boyfriend/girlfriend thing going on. Our parents broke up and went different directions. We continued to "go out" and "break up" numerous times. Until High School he dated other people and so did I. Senior year in High School (he had just graduated, he is one year older) we started dating again. He asked my mom if he could marry me, she said yes and the planning was on. While we were engaged it was time to put in for hunting to see if we could get drawn. So we put in for hunting (this little fact will be important later). In the meantime my DH got scared and broke off the engagement. The next 6-9 months we didn't even talk. We got drawn for hunting. He had got a deer and took it by my mom to show her. He was inside my mom's house and he heard his truck start. Someone tried to steal his truck. My mom thought that it might be my ex boyfriend that was very jealous so she called me. I came over to the house and my DH said "hey, I could get you a deer if you wanted to go hunting with me tomorrow?" So I met him at his house in the morning, walked in and he making some coffee to put into the thermos, picks up the thermos and pats it as he is saying, "I made us some love potion" lol (did I mention he was just so charming ROFL). Anyway we go hunting all day and no deer. On the way back to town he brought up the subject of "us". He had a question, "would I follow him anywhere he went?" I said that I would. So I followed him to Vegas that night and the next day we got married. He told his cousin and he went with us. The rest is about 2 months shy of 12 years of history. Kind of crazy but it has been worth the ride. I still love him like we were teenagers and he still makes me have butterflies when I see him. Tandy in Arizona
Rod and I were high school sweethearts. Dated all four years. He graduated a year before me and proposed marriage at that time. We stayed engaged during my senior year. After I graduated in 1990 I was running around with friends and Rod and I more or less drifted apart. This was more my fault as I hit a pretty selfish stage. A year later I met and married someone else. Years later I heard Rod had also married. Fast foward to 1998. My husband at the time leaves me and my three children we had together. I am shopping at K-Mart and run into Rod's brother. He tells me Rod's wife had left him and his three children. I send him a card letting him know that I understand the pain of divorce and that I would pray for him. He called to thank me. That one phone call led to many over a month or two. By winter 1999 we were dating and in September 2000 we were married. I dont know why I kept it, but on my wedding day I wore the original ring Rod had used to propose to me back in high school. Our six children were our wedding party. Rod adopted my three children this past Nov. and I will be adopting his this fall. We have also taken in our little Jessie that most of you know about and we are expecting our first birth child any day now. This Sept. we will celebrate 5 years of marriage.
I didn't realize that this little one was y'all's first together. How very special! I know from experience that being a step-mom isn't easy. You two have done a wonderful job blending your families!
I know this thread is really old but I love to tell the story of how my DH and I met and like reading the stories of others so I thought I would try to get it started up again. The summer after my JR. in high school, I went to church on Sunday Morning after being gone for over a month on Vacation. I set at the end of the pew and looked down the row to see who all (the youth always sat together) was there. There he was 7 people down. He had been going to church there the month I was gone. I thought to myself, “self, you’ve got to meet him.” So I wrote a note asking everyone to go to lunch after church. DH and I sat across from each other and couldn’t keep our eyes off of each other. That night after church I called one of my best friends that was friends with DH, too, and told him, “That’s the guy I am going to marry.” Mike told me, “Sorry Ginger, he is engaged to his high school sweetheart that lives in IL, and all the girls in the youth group love him.” I said, “That’s the guy I am going to marry.” We spent the next month together as much as we could. DH was in my city with a traveling job and when his job was over (a month after we met,) he left TX and went to IL and told his fiancée that he met someone else. During that month he was very faithful to his fiancée and was never alone with me. We dated for the next two years only seeing each other for the weekend every six months or so. During those two years we talked on the phone all the time and he sent me roses and presents every month. Then after two years he moved to TX and we dated from July until we got married in Oct. This past Oct. we have been married 21 yrs. And what a wonderful 21 yrs. it has been. We’ve been together since the very first day.
mom24boys!, glad you brought this thread back to life. I never read it. I met Handsome at work. He was the foreman on the welfare office building that was across the street from where I worked. He would see me walk to the restaurant for my break. Since he ran the job, he was able to set break time around my break. He was too shy to talk to me so he just stared. I thought he was a pervert and even called him that because after seeing him stare for so many weeks, I got tired of it. I didn't think twice about him. Wanting to meet me, he brought in three shirts to be cleaned. Well, he still didn't talk much and left without saying much. Then a month or two passed and he came in to pick up his shirts. I wasn't in so he left his number with another employee and asked her to give it to me. I was hesitant to call him. Finally I did and I found out he was WAY older than me. He thought I was older and I thought he was younger. So I didn't want to date him. My roomate told me to just have dinner with him and if I didn't like him, never see him again. Well, we went to dinner and that was history! We dated for two years and have been married for 14 years.
I had been married for 16 yrs and had two sons. I left my ex in April of 2001 and was divorced by Nov 2001. In January of 2003 I placed an ad on Match.com. I was getting a lot of complete rejects respond and with each email I got, my ad got longer and longer with "don't respond if..." . My main "requirements" were they had to be a Christian, they had to be an ACTIVE father (not one with kids that lived 400 miles away and not involved in their lives), and they had to accept my children without hesitation, as I would theirs. My children are NOT baggage, and wont be treated as such. If they wrote they like long walks on the beach and fine dining, I wouldn't respond. lol.. So I get this one response that was totally sincere, open and apologetic for unloading his life and troubles on me. His ex wife had just passed away 3 weeks prior and he was now a single dad, raising his seven year old daughter. He had been divorced the same month that I had been, and he was telling me how much his daughter meant to him, and how clueless he felt trying to be a single dad. His entire email was like having a conversation with a trusted friend that you have known for years. Three weeks later we met for the first time. Our dates included his daughter (who was totally adorable but a total nightmare at the time) and every other weekend included my boys. I started babysitting for his daughter while he went to work (I worked from home) and two months later in July we decided to move in together. We got engaged that December 2003, and married in August 2004. The following July I adopted his daughter as my own. She has been through a nightmare with her mother, and has a LOT of issues. This is the reason we homeschool, she has a hard time with the social aspects of public school. My husbands ex wife was a total lunatic and died of a drug overdose. It has not been easy as my husband is very much like some of the other dads I just read about. He was not raised with affection, he is very much hands-off although he loves his kids more than anything in the world. When his ex wife passed away, he had to fight off family who wanted to take her. Although he was clueless, he was not letting anyone else raise her but him. He has had to learn to show affection and it is a struggle for him. He was raised by parents that were in their 50's when they had him, and his father was very hands-off. Child rearing was done by the mother, and that was all he knew. We have been married since 2004 and have since adopted our youngest (and last ) daughter in 2007. We have had our rough patches, but I can't imagine not being his wife. We almost didn't meet. On Match.com they don't allow you to post your phone number or email address since they want people to buy their service to be able to respond to an ad. I hid my email address in the body of my ad. I (m) wrote (e) it in (a) between the (t) words (a) I had typed (o) and said "If you (l) can figure (.) it out, then (c) you can (o) contact me (m). My husband had seen my profile for 3 months and didn't respond because he was too cheap to pay for the service. Once he saw I put the email address hidden in my ad, he figured it out and responded. Our first few dates all we did was laugh about how we could have met 3 months earlier if he had just spent the $29.99.
I enjoy reading everyone's stories. My husband and I met on a Christian website back in 1997. I was living and working on an island paradise in Alaska and he was going to Bible school in Texas. It was only a matter of a week or two before we started spending every spare minute on the phone or computer chat. Imagine the phone bills, would you? We even shared our first Thanksgiving dinner over the phone. We each cooked the same food and ate together (over the phone). He asked me to marry him 6 weeks after we met online and before we met in person. Different, I know, but I have always loved that he fell in love with me without seeing me in person. We met in person 2 months after we met online. He came to Florida to visit with me and my family just before Christmas. I went back to Alaska and he went back to Texas. I was supposed to move to Texas in May because of a conference I was planning through my work, but I couldn't take much more of the long distance thing so on Spring Break he came up to Alaska and moved me down to Texas. We were married 6 weeks later on a beach in Florida. That was 12+ years ago. Yesterday as my dh was stirring his chicken curry he told me how good life is with me. I concur completely. Would you believe that I used to believe love was hogwash? :love:
My college roommate was dating hubby's roommate. So, I knew of him before I knew him. About 2 weeks after our first date, our roommates were going to Mexico for Spring Break. At the last minute we both decided (were convinced) to go. We spent the whole week hanging out. After that, we were inseperable. Hubby likes to tell the next stage of our story as I forced him to marry me. I told him that I had to go back home for my student teaching since I could not afford to live on my own while teaching all day and not having time to work. I also refused to live with a boyfriend prior to marriage, which he had offered. That tied his hands, have me move away and leave the future uncertain, or marry me so I would move in with him. At the time, I did not see it that way, but it was true. We decided to get married the next weekend, essentially eloping with our parents and siblings in attendance (it would have been eloping, but my mom begged to be there, so we went small wedding). I like to joke that our wedding cake was a grocery store birthday cake and our dinner was delivered pizza. 10 1/2 years later, I have never regretted our small wedding (I hate crowds and big groups).
This is a fun read! I met my husband March 3, 2001 at a bar called The Hideout on the grounds of the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo. My best friend and I had gone to see Martina McBride and afterward we went to dance at The Hideout. Neither me nor my friend were trolling for guys and were out on the floor dancing together when this girl came up to me and said there was a guy that liked me and wanted to talk to me. She pointed him out and I told her that if he wants to talk to me to tell him to come talk to me. Then I went back to dancing. He never came to talk to me but this steer wrestler that had competed in the rodeo that night did come and talk to me. He was not my cup of tea and I kept trying to ignore him but he was drunk and at one point he grabbed me and my friend and I swear to you all he said "All I need is the two of you, a bucket of mayonaise and some jumper cables". Yes people he actually said those words. Shocked I quickly said "I gotta go!" and I left my friend there to fend for herself and I went to talk to the guy that the girl told me about earlier. I walked up to him, tapped him on the shoulder, introduced myself and offered to buy him a beer. He asked me out for the next night but I had to go back home over an hour away. I called him 3 days later and on March 17th we had our first date which was quite eventful itself. We have been inseperable ever since that day. We moved in together the first week of June of that same year and got married in 2003 the year our daughter Gracie was born. We had both been married before and I had Samantha and he had his son who was nothing but difficult. I say if we made it through those years until his son turned 18 then we can make it through anything at all.
I first saw dh when he walked in the rear door of the church where I was singing in the choir. He said the minute he saw my smiling face during the opening song, he wanted to meet me. He came to a Sunday school fellowship cook-out and we talked for a couple of hours. Later that week, he tracked me down at the salon where I worked and asked me to come watch the church softball game. I didn't go, so he hunted me down where I lived and we talked till 4 am. He was actually engaged to someone else at the time, so he wouldn't "put a move on me" till he had broken it off with her. He ended his engagement with the other girl, and 5 days later he proposed and we were married 2 and a half months later. That was over 11 years ago. I would never advocate marrying someone after only 3 months, but it worked for us!
The first two years that my dh and I "dated" he lived in hotels because he traveled and moved all the time with his job. We were on the phone with each other daily. At the hotels he had to pay his phone bill weekly. He always paid for our calls and they would be anywhere from $10.00-$150.00 a week.
My DH and I just had our 13th anniversary on the 29th of last month...... we actually met in a chat room on AOL........ none of that E-harmony or match dot com for us....... we'd never get matched up. my parents were horrified now my dad and my husband would be best buddies if my dad lived in our state....and I think my mom is jellous of my husband sometimes because well he can actually change a light bulb and fix stuff and her husband can't
Alaska to Texas or Texas to Alaska was a high rate back then. We ran about 2K a month between us. Too much!
OoOoOoO, I love reading everyone's stories!!! DH and i actually went to high school together. I was a sophomore and he was a Senior. His best friend and I dated for 2 years while in school, so we talked often in the halls, and the last year he came home every friday for football games to visit (I was in the marching band along with my then Boyfriend). He was actually dating and eventually engaged to MY best friend at the time, and I was dating and eventually engaged to HIS best friend. After I graduated, my friends and I would go out everynight and some how one night he got invited. We both just hit it off right away, picking up where our friendship left off in Highschool. He told his fiancee that he felt that they had grown apart after being engaged for 2 years, and his friend and I had been broken up for awhile before we met again. We were married in the Beginning of September of 2006, and have been going strong ever since!!
My wife and I met at a 'Plymouth Brethren' youth camp in north Devon - even though she attended an Anglican church. The camp was situated in a farmer's field overlooking the sea, and it rained and blew a gale for much of the week (typical English weather). She was from Plymouth, and the Cornish lads were viewed as the wild bunch. Still, after the camp, I took a bus across the river from Cornwall, and we met in the city. When we met, I was 16 and she was 15. We married when I was 21 and she was 20. She's such a happy person and is always smiling (which is amazing in light of all the trouble I cause). Tomorrow is our 30th wedding anniversary.
Being happy and always smiling are two wonderful qualities that so many are lacking now days. Cherish it. Happy Anniversary! 30 years that great.
