You can't be! I am the world's most blessed woman! :wink: I think it is great your husband brings you coffee. That is romantic! :love: My husband likes to leave little gifts for me to find. One time he told me to stay in bed. When I woke up, there was a beautiful pink bag on the table. It had a bottle of perfume inside. The real treat was in the card. He thanked me for being his lover and helper. Of course I cried like a BIG baby. :lol: Speaking for myself, this isn't aimed at anybody on this thread, I can't see not helping my husband prepare for his day. He gives so much of himself in other ways. Helping him start his day is such a little piece of his day, but it makes all the difference in him getting out on time to fight the traffic. I would much rather get up early to help him than drive 100 miles one way, to work for 8+ hours, to turn around and drive two to three hours to get home. My man is slaying those dragons so I can stay home and homeschool. I can always go back to bed. He can't. In the end, it comes down to husbands and wives each doing there part to help their mate where there is a need for help. It isn't always about us doing what we necessarily want to do. However, when either spouse has to force or scold the other into doing something, then this isn't right. While my husband likes my help, he would never expect me to follow his schedule. I am able to do it, it doesn't cost me anything, and I get to give my man warm loving before he departs. I love smooching him at the gate. Speaking for myself, I enjoy this. Whether it is with a cup of coffee, dinner, or a warm welcome home, spouses need to take care of each other. AGAIN, it can't be demanded or expected.
Patty, your post reminded me of the The 5 Love Languages. How we show love and expect others to show us love can be very different. And if we're showing our spouse love in our love language and not theirs, they can feel we don't love them 'enough'.
