I have been pleading with dh for the last 6 months to please let me shut down the daycare. It was getting so hard to manage family, hsing, housework, and daycare. Add to all that my chronic fatigue, fibro, and reduced kidney function (due to last fall's botched surgery); I truly felt like giving up. Three weeks ago, dh came home to find me curled up on the floor crying that I wanted to die. It had seriously gotten that bad! How sad that it took becoming that extreme to get his attention, but he promptly gave all the daycare families two weeks notice. Friday was my last day! I've already noticed that my children and I are more relaxed. No more rushing every evening to be ready for the morning's arrival; or rushing to get everything done over the weekends. I'm hoping this change will allow my body to truly recover. Dh is majorly stressing over money, but he also knows that if I wound up in the hospital again, the situation could have been even worse. So, we are tightening our belt even more (ouch - not so tight, that hurts). I wish there was a way that I could earn a little extra using my computer, but everything I've seen is a scam. Oh, well, trusting on the Lord for our needs. On the plus side, ds turned 5 on the 9th. I now have a kindergartener in the home - yikes!
Don't be too hard on your dh for waiting until an extreme to do something. Men are visual and project oriented. So, with money being a concern he just wanted this to work out as long as possible. Unless he saw you in so much distress he may just not have understood how hard things are on you. I know it would take more than me expressing my feelings for my dh to understand. Well, he would say he understood but in his mind he sacrifices and he works regardless of any circumstances. Not that he is unfeeling as much as for a man that is par for the course....ya know? So...once he sees that you are in such distress it may hit him that your situation is more than "not feeling well." LOL. I am happy you closed down your daycare. I know the feeling of realizing that daycare is no longer an option as a line of work....just relief and I don't even have your physical issues. I do pay that your physical issues will improve now that your home will be more relaxed and easier to manage. Not sure how you managed this long!
I am glad that you are feeling some relief. Sometimes men don't notice things and it takes you running through the house on fire before they notice it is time to put out the flames. :love: Said in love toward our wonderful men!
We're here if you need us!! As a fibro sufferer, I understand how that makes everything else so much harder to deal with some days. Daycare is a special calling and one of my best friends who is the greatest daycare lady - is giving up her home business also because she is burnt out. She is getting a wonderful job managing part of a truck stop. Anyway, my point is that managing little ones (not your own) can be stressful. More stress - more fibro problems. It all spirals out of control and you end up on the floor curled up wishing you were dead. I am hugging you!! ((( ))) The Lord does provide for your needs and He will. Do your part to buckle down and you will be amazed at how things have a way of working out. Trust in HIM to see you through this transition and time of change. You are not alone and have support here. You are a great Mom and knowing that you couldn't manage it all anymore is truly a mature and responsible thing to admit. This doesn't mean you failed. It means you know your limits. I think I understand a little of what you might be going through as I have about reached my mental limits on some things going on in my home lately. Glad your dh finally figured it out. The main thing is he understood and was supportive. Men can be a little slow sometimes...lol . We're here if you need us. :love:
Glad your feeling some relief. Sometimes I wish I could just shut down the farm I get so tired of doing that too but I would rather get rid of the housework then then working outside oh so true! Hubby wanted to do turkeys again this year I had to make him show me on paper that this time around it would make us a profit. I really hope you feeling better soon Sam
That is true about God. There are many times when we did not see the bigger picture until God revealed it to us in time. I pray for your healing and that God will provide for you and your family.
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Thank you everyone for all your support and encouraging words! I do know that dh wants to do the best he can for his family, but yes, sometimes that means setting a fire to get his attention. We did sit down to see exactly what we were making off of the daycare. Once we subtracted the extra groceries, wear and tear on the house, additional toys/art supplies, and take out (when mom was too tired to cook) - I've been only making about 300. 00 per week instead of the $700 I was taking in childcare payments. Our hope is that I can return to using more frugal ways of living now that we will have more time.
Oh, what a relief! My sister was a GREAT Day Care person, and had wonderful control of the kids, and was very organized. But it's stressful and wearing, and after about 16 years of it she had to quit! She also has fibromyalgia to deal with, though it wasn't as severe during her Day Care years as it is now. Anyway, I think less stress will be so much healthier for you! I will pray that God will meet your needs!
I agree with Ava. Handsome has fibromyalgia and he was the one who had to stop working for a while. It was hard on him because he finally had to realize that he couldn't do it. He pushed himself so hard that he ended up immobile. He had to crash before he could see that he needed a break. It took a long time for him to get on his feet again. But he also learned a lesson.
I can't believe how much I've been sleeping lately. In the last two days, I slept ten hours at night and took a two hour nap in the late afternoon! It almost seems as if my body is just craving this chance to rest. Although I feel quite guilty for not getting more done; I've been telling myself that once my body is better, I'll be able to accomplish so much more. My kidddos are loving having not to share their home or mom. I'm reading bedtime stories again and playing outside with them, rather than watching from the window. Thank you again for all your prayers and advice. My soul is soaking it up as much as my body is soaking up the sleep!
Sounds like things are going well for you already! Sleep as much as you can! Doesn't sound like your kids are suffering from your sleeping...sounds like they are doing great! I know how hard it is to feel like you can't get anything done and then feeling guilty about it. Hey...and that's me only being pregnant. Girl...you rest! If old preggie here is allowed some rest than you most certainly deserve it.
That sounds exactly how my husband would see it too! I'm glad he finally saw the light and realized you needed time for yourself. I hope it goes well -a nd that you figure something else out for the extra income you need!
wow, I am so glad you did it. Sounds like its what you needed. I also have Fibro. so I know what you go through. Some days are harder then others.
