I lost an earring. Yep, that's it and it broke my heart. I don't have much jewelry, it's not a luxury we can afford. I had one pair of little gold hoop earrings, I have worn them every single day for years. I haven't even taken them out, they are like my wedding rings, a permanent fixture on my body. I'm not even girly and into jewelry, I'm not sure why it has me feeling so down. Maybe because in the 10 years I have been a housewife, I can't bring myself to buy myself anything beyond basic necessities (I haven't bought a pair of jeans in 3 years and might buy a t shirt once or twice a year... I can't even buy myself underwear without feeling horrible about spending money), and I refuse to let "I want" come out of my mouth. sigh :cry:
I'm the same way, sweetie. I can't wear cheap earrings, because I'm allergic to the nickel in the alloys, so I have to have at least gold posts or wires... I don't spend on clothes or shoes for me, either.
Awww!! So sorry! I only have one good pair of earrings. They are real pearls, and my parents gave them to me years ago. I recently thought I lost them, but I found them! I was really sad, so I know you are, too. I hope you have a surprise find!! I don't buy much for myself either, so I tend to treasure the few good things I have!
Give up the guilt. I'm not one of those people who is a me first person, but at the same time love yourself enough to treat yourself as well as you treat your friends. You do not want your children to have this same kind of guilt when it comes to their own needs. (I know I grew up with it, and my husband had to teach me to let it go!). I do not know your exact situation. But, I'll tell you, I only like real stuff for my earrings too or I get infected ears. Right now Walmart has sterling silver earrings two pairs for 10 dollars. (so 5 dollars a pair). I have also gotten 14K solid (meaning not overlay) gold for under 20 dollars from them many times. I will say I personally have never tried them, because I am not exactly sure what it is I am allergic to, so I stick with gold or sterling and not anything else. BUT, if you know it's specifically nickle then I was at The Icing the day after Black Friday (it's a store owned by Claire's) they had TONS of nickle free earrings any where between 4 and 8 pairs for 2 dollars-so making them some where between 25 and 50 cents per a pair when broke down. I was tempted to buy them, because it said for extra sensitive ears, and I asked the ladies there what that meant and they said it meant nickle free, but I'm not sure if that's my problem or not, so I went ahead and left them. However, if I know for sure that nickle was the problem, I would of bought them, that was a GOOD deal!
I'm kind of over it now. I'm still a little irked but will live. We live on a very tight budget. When I worked and money was better and kids were fewer, I spent money on myself all the time. I don't feel I have the right to expect frivolous things when I'm afforded the joy of staying home with my kids. Hubby is a factory worker... and not in management, so that tells you we barely scrape by. If I have extra money I put it into school or the kids' wants.... that makes me happy. Eventually I may replace them... but it's not on my priority list.
