I was wonering, my dd seems extremely immature in her behavior. I am not sure if this is a common thing in homeschool teens? MY ds went out to school in this stage so I did not notice a lot of this behavior that I am observing. Mostly in pride areas but I am just curious if its ahome school thing or what?
I've noticed that a lot of homeschool kids (my own included, back in the day) appear to be immature compared to public/private schooled kids, and I'm thinking there might be lots of reasons: they might would have been immature no matter where they schooled; they aren't up on all the street-wise behaviors and such that their age-peers are into; they're not pressured by age-peers to "leave that baby stuff behind" so they can do what they enjoy...
Thats wht I am wondering, cause her main friend has been her younger sibling and her behaviors meet his age level... if this may be why he is her peer for much of her life.. but her brain level is ahead too so is that maybe an issue as well? I am sure there are times when she seems more mature too
What do you mean my immature? Is it what she plays with? How she talks? My 5 yr old is mature in that she can do a lot on her own that other 5 yr olds can not do. I would say she immature in that she isn't "up" with the cultural norms- which is what I what!
no , what I mean is the way she can't handle being wrong, doesnt get her way etc, things at her age she should be saying " oh rats, thats okay" "
sounds more like a personality issue to me. of course, ps kids are so used to dissapointment maybe it's no big deal for them anymore and having been hsed she hasn't had many opportunities to learn how to handle the "downs" of life. just a thought. Either way, alot can happen in a year or two and I wouldn't worry about it too much.
TMom, your daughter sounds like so many other children I know. Except these children are public school children. In fact she sounds like many adults I know as well. LOL
so this means she is probably 'normal'? AAAAAAAAAAAAA! Nooooooooooooo! lol Measn I probably have to keep on dealing with theissues until she gets it right, but no fair I want kids who are all like I was as a kid waaaaaa.. lol Seriously I don't know why I just was not rebellious or obstanent when I was a kid. MY parents told me this LOL
I work at the ps and the kids there act immature also. I dont think you have anything to worry about.
You sound like you were a lot like our oldest and youngest kiddos. Now the middle daughter, YIKES!!!!!!!!!!!!!LOL She is an adult and still behaves like this. She can't handle being wrong because as far as she is concerned, she is NEVER wrong!
LOL!!! She probably will get over it... ...eventually! My daughter is REALLY stubborn so it is taking her a while longer than most. :lol:
oh no I wouldn't label her as being immature because she can't handle being wrong. I know alot of adults that still to this day can't handle being wrong. So, I don't think it has anything to do with hs or not.
thanks for the help folks... some days I just don't know what to do, for now she is grounded to her room for not accepting her own fault. I guess I need to pray for her to get a clue? What would the right thing to pray for her to see her wrongability? ( my own word to explain what I mean)
I think God will understand what you mean by wrongability!:love: You can also pray for humility and accountability.
This thread reminds me of something about my dd that happened when she was about 10 years old. She still liked to play with dolls at that age, by then she was playing with American Girl Dolls - Kirsten and Molly - and a neighbor girl who was also about 10 years old came over and told her she was too old to be playing with dolls. She told the neighbor girl she was NOT too old to play with them and just continued to play with them. :lol: But no doubt had my dd been in p.s. all of those years she would have been learning behavior and attitudes that would have made her appear to be more mature, but her character development would have suffered. I think to some degree a child can "appear" to be a little more mature than they really are because they have learned the rules of the "culture" they are in, but as far as being selfish, and the development of certain virtues, they really are not any more mature than anyone else. What you see isn't really all of what you get. Appearances can be misleading. A lot of parents who think things are going fine with their children, would be appalled and very upset, if they heard all of the conversations their children were having on the p.s. playground, and in the hallways. Some children are good at being what their parents expect when the parents are around, but something very different around their peers. Of course, I know some children have genuinely good characters, but certainly some do not, and of course that's not just about homeschool or p.s. I do think we have more opportunity to help our children develop healthy character traits by having them at home than we would if we sent them off to spend huge amounts of time with their peers.
I don't know if it has anything to do with homeschooling or not I am sure it does but hey I rather have them alittle behind then having sex talks or sex... if they were in a ps she would be talking about that and yes she more then likely wouldn't be playing with dolls because they would be laughing at her.
i've been scrutinizing my own daughter lately ever since my mom :roll: asked me why she was acting immature. Now she wasn't whining or anything that I could see she was just being silly. Well of course now self doubt begins to creep in so i asked a good friend to be honest and observe my daughter and tell me if she acts her age. Before she could answer my friend's mom answered "she acts like girls used to act when I was growing up" So I guess that's good right?
I was a very compliant child, so my dd's behaviour (same as yours) I really have a problem understanding. I even went so far as to have a standard apology; it goes like this "I'm sorry. I was WRONG. Please forgive me!" Whenever we correct her behaviour she is made to tell us "When I did ____I was wrong" I really want to bring it home that only she is responsible for many of her problems and finger-pointing is not allowed. If you find a cure all for it, though, let me know. BTW, DD (12) is slowly improving. I've found myself making a point to model my willingness to admit my wrongs, and apologise, if needed. I think this might have helped a little. However, in many ways she is very mature. She cares for her little brother almost like he was hers, and she has many adult outlooks on different things. In other ways, though, she's not really as immature as she is innocent about the world. Which I think I like, especially at age 12.
