A husband is someone who, after taking out the trash, gives the impression that he's cleaned the whole house! LOL, anyone else got a man like mine? Love him dearly, wouldn't know what to do without him. I wouldn't have anyone yelling my name constantly, to drop what I am doing to help him with something. Because nothing that I could be doing could possibly trump whatever it is that he wants me to assist him with. No, wait, my kids would only yell for me more if my dh wasn't around to take up so much of my time. LOL No jk...He's not really THAT bad. Great honorable, hard-working man!:love: Blessings & great day!
Well, the alternative is being married to a man with OCD. He is in "remission", though. :lol: I appreciate the fact that he does laundry, dishes, cleans the house and scrubs the toilets. The only problem is that it makes me see just how much of that I don't do! :roll:
I have the 'other' man. The one who bends over backwards to be helpful. Even when you don't really want it or need it.
Wow I think I'm married to the same man as well! My running not-so-funny joke is that if I disappeared, my family would live like rodents My dh will do some dishes, and think he's really made a huge impact. And yes- it DOES help... for that day. So if I say, gee I need more help around here, he'll reply HEY he DOES help.... and I just can't seem to get him to realize helping with one thing once a month doesn't really qualify. *sigh* he's a good man, though. And I wouldn't trade him :love:
I have an OCD neat freak who passed the house cleaning off to me, the NOT neat-freak, when we decided I'd be a SAHM. I get nagged and nit-picked, even though I'm doing the best I can, and the house is a million times better looking than any other SAHM's house I've ever seen. *sigh* Seriously... it's like walking into a sparkling home, and the host says, "Sorry, I didn't have time to pick anything up before you came." That's my house. LOL!
Guess what mine did! I live in the central Ohio area, and was invited to a Ladies' Night in the Dayton are for this Friday. I had no intention on going, as I'd be the only one going from this area (though I could spend the night at the host's house!). It's two hours away, I've got my dss' baby shower Saturday afternoon, am teaching Children's Ministry on Saturday night.... Well, when Carl found out, he told me I WAS going, and THAT was THAT! LOL! He said he really felt I needed to go and that it would do me a lot of good. So he'll have the kids on his own (including figuring out dinner) Friday night. What a sweetie!!!
Your husband takes out the trash? wow. my dh believes that once his 40 hours are up at work, he's done.
I know exactly how you feel. It caused us so much pain in our marriage until Dh got help for his OCD. I finally gave up trying to keep everything spotless because it is impossible to know exacty what they will think needs to be a certain way. The real issue is that in their mind, nothing is "just right" unless they have followed a certain process to arrive at whatever end they think is complete. I am so, so, so blessed that Dh realized that his condition was going to cause a divorce (he would get uncontrolablely angry if his processes were interupted) unless he got some help. He is a completely different man now. (((Hugs))) There is hope if you find yourself in a similar state of dispair....not saying your situation is just like mine was, but if it is it can change.
I remember a comedian I think it was Jeff Foxworthy who told about how men are so proud of their 1% of the work. A woman can be out paving the driveway, and a man will come out on the porch and tell her "Don't worry about the ashtray in the den I emptied it for you!" That said my husband is a great help to me. I do giggle at how much he likes to be complimented for his work.
Mine, bless his little heart, will wash a dish on occasion, will cook something on occasion, but regularly takes out the trash, washes/dries and generally deals with his own laundry, AND changes the sheets on our bed! But the best part is, he doesn't gripe if I don't do something in particular I should've done...
Mine, too!! He doesn't see that the counters and stove aren't wiped down or that the floor needs to be swept or the garbage taken out.
This is similar to the understanding in our house. Hubby is not expected to help, but the unwritten rule is that he accepts the house "as is". He says that if he does not plan on getting off of his butt to do it, he can't be too critical of the way I do (don't) do things.
Ya'll are making me re-think my whole thought process about SAHM "duties". I had no idea that dh should be helping me! I thought it was normal for me to come home from the hospital 2 days after giving birth and doing the dishes and catching up on laundry that had piled up in my absence(dh called it my vacation). What else am I missing?LOL
Pssst....Leissa....they can do the shopping (with a list from us, of course, or they will overspend) AND cook dinner. They don't want other SAHMs to know this, and I try to be respectful of their club rules, but pass this along to any other SAHM who only gets vacation to birth babies.
Oh goodness, my belly hurts from laughing. My hubby acts like that too, where he does one little thing then he has to brag about it and act like he cleaned the whole house top to bottom. lol Bless his heart though, he is good about helping. I may have to ask, but he doesn't put up a stink. He routinely helps with laundry, dishes (when he is not on duty at the fire station), vacuuming, and other household chores. I think it helped that he was a stay at home dad for a year while he was unemployed. Even though he never cleaned the house 'as well' as I did...ha...he saw within that year what was required of a SAHM. I think it opened up his eyes a bit!!! lol
I'll admit... my dh is great when I honest to goodness NEED him to be. I had 5 surgeries in 3 years, and boy was he a huuuuuuuge help! (Two of those were c-sections, so he was on newborn duty, too.) My 5th was by far my worst surgery. I was literally on the couch for 2 months with a catheter, and the doc said I couldn't lift anything heavier than a small party purse (as if I were going to a party with my bathrobe and catheter?). I had a 2 month old at the time who weighed 15 lbs. I had round-the-clock help from dh and occasional help from ladies at church. I'm thankful he had plenty of time off from work. I can't imagine what I would've done without him! ... but he's paid his debt. Time to join the real men and keep up with club rules again. :lol:
