My sons had one training session with the other altar servers the week before Christmas Eve. This was very important as the other family went out of town for Christmas. Well, the boys did great!!!! They looked so adorable and really handled themselves well. I was so proud and also just shocked to see my little babies doing such grown-up work in the church. The only downer was that my sil asked what kind of church we attend (I guess it wasn't "Catholic Enough") and my father was very negative..he is not even Catholic.. just came to see the boys. The rudeness and total lack of caring for my sons' feelings really have me angry. My father didn't even tell my older son that he did well. My son was very hurt. I told both boys that the whole church thought they did a fantastic job and how proud they made everyone. Would it be wrong to just not invite my family anymore? There is always some kind of snide comment made on the part of my father, but he has been like that with ds12 since he was little. He actually would tell me and other people that my child is retarded. My son is highly intelligent but realized his grandfather was predjudiced against him and refused to speak to him. This at 5 yrs old. Smart Kid! The boys are growing in the church and in their Faith. I don't want negativity to creep in and mess any of it up for the boys. Suggestions?
No, it wouldn't be wrong to not invite them. Doesn't matter which denomination you attend, you and your husband are raising your children as you feel God is directing you. If others can't respect that, so be it. You still need to be respectful to them and teach your boys to be, too, but that doesn't mean you need to invite them to every little thing the boys do if they can't be encouraging to them. Congratulations to your boys!!! I kow it was a proud moment for them and you, in spite of your family!!!
((((((((Mary)))))))) ITA with Jackie. You sound like you are a wonderful mom and a great parent. I am so sorry that your families actions hurt your children. That is so frustrating, beucase IMO family should be loving and accepting of each other, and IRL they are not. That is so hard to get past some days.
Agreeing w/the other posters, very sorry about your family's behavior. I would definitely not include them in the future. It will distract and maybe diminish the occasions for the boys. So wonderful your dss did well. How proud you must be!!! Isn't it hard though to see them growing and changing so fast? Bittersweet. Enjoy your young gentlemen!!
