Oye. Just watched the "Strictest Parents" episode with Nicholeen Peck. Not impressed. Saw how she relates to troubled kids and to her own kids in her own home. She's tone deaf, insanely controlling, and oblivious to how teaching "blind obedience" will endanger her children as adults. Yep, she's a very effective prison warden. No, she is not a good mother. (In my opinion) Give her kids ten years. She'll learn. (should qualify this with.... "this is just my opinion"...but I kinda figured ya'll knew that anyway.)
Watched that "Strictest parents" thing.... Utah is the most conservative state, must be 18 to smoke cigarettes and 21 to drink alcohol. Um, isn't that EVERY state?
My son used to keep his room a mess every day. And every day I would make him clean it. And every day it was a mess. One day I told him that he had 30 min to clean the room and everything not put in its place was getting thrown away. 30 min later I went in with a big black trash bag and started filling it. He was like WAIT WHAT ARE YOU DOING? ?? That day I ended up giving him a free pass and let him finish his room, but I told him that next time I will follow thru and that's a promise. He has gotten better. When ever it gets bad I just remind him about the trash bag......
Someone mentioned about the Wifi password. If the internet is their thing they all like to do change the password. Don't change it back until things are done
I TOTALLY Feel you!! My 17 year old got wind that he could legally move out and we couldn't make him come back so he did.. Now he's back home (LONG STORY) And does NOTHING!! He sleeps on the couch because his bed is being held ransom at his old house. So if he's not sleeping on the couch, he leaves is blankets, socks, clothes, whatever on the couch and around it on the floor. He does work, but when he's not at work he's loafing around or sleeping. HELLO, WE HAVE THINGS THAT NEED TO GET DONE AROUND HERE!! I don't allow my kids to sleep all day but this one thinks he can do as he pleases because he's been on his own already. He did get slapped in the face by the real world and I seriously hope that he learned something from it. I don't think so though. 16 year old pulls food out and never puts it back and eats in his room, which is a HUGE no no in this house.. So now we have ants all over in his room. Told him to clean it up several times and he finally does but not without a HUGE attitude. I'm seriously ready for the older ones to move on outta here. I know, I'm a bad mom for saying that.. But it trickles down to the younger ones and I can't handle much more from the younger ones. I've been working and come home to a pig sty every single day.. It's clean when I leave, I come home to a sink full of dirty dishes that haven't been rinsed off and the counter tops full of crumbs and food and whatever else they pulled out. I'm seriously about to EXPLODE!! I'm SO tired of all of this.. Hubby is so drugged up on pain meds because of his back issue that I feel like a single mom. (((sigh))) I do know that this too shall pass and I have to learn to pick my battles, but it's hard. All I ask is that they do their chores, which only take about 10 minutes, and clean up after themselves. They do have to do their own laundry too, but that's because I'm sick of washing it and them throwing it in the floor with the dirty clothes and then back into the hamper. They want to waste time, they can waste their own and not mine! My time is very valuable! I'm going to sit down and work out a plan and then we are having a family meeting and discuss what's going to happen and the consequences if it doesn't.. I have a feeling 17 year old won't be here much longer. He doesn't like having a curfew and following our house rules. He turns 18 next month so he can legally sign a lease for an apartment.
Crazymom, You have some GREAT ideas!! You even inspired me to come up with some ways to keep the kids off the tv when I'm at work if they haven't been doing their assigned chores.. I think take the remote to work day might be a good thing. AND I'm going to learn how to change the Wifi password I'm not playing with these kids!! I am NOT raising lazy kids who have everything given to them. I'm DONE! I don't expect perfection, we all live in this house, but we do all have to pitch in to make it look less like a house profiled on an episode of "Hoarders". I did make 16 year old come to work with me because he wouldn't clean up his messes and left it for me to clean while he was running around with his friends. I work at a Boys and Girls Club and they welcome Community service workers to clean the outside of the building. LOL!! He HATED it!! But his attitude was MUCH better!! I may have to delegate another week to him and to the 17 year old as well.
