I'm sorry, with being so busy I didn't get this up before her surgery. I think God knew that you would be praying if I had told you, though, so He took your prayers before you prayed them and worked everything out! She had colostomy surgery on October 30. Came out of surgery fine. Suddenly all the levels of things (sorry, I am not technical enough to remember the medical terms) started dropping, and they couldn't figure out why. They were dropping to dangerous levels, so they rushed her back to surgery. Come to find out, they had nicked an artery during the surgery and it was bleeding all over inside her! So they sutured that up and cleared and cleaned the area, then sewed her back up. The first surgery was microscopic and barely even a mark. When they had to go back in, they had to make a large cut to make sure they got everything that might be wrong. So, poor thing, she's having a lot of pain from the second surgery right now, but is doing so much better today than yesterday that it's amazing! I talked with her yesterday and today and she's so much more clear-headed and is talking clearly, so that was good to hear! Now, this a a GREAT Christian surgeon, I don't know that he's ever done that before, and he felt just horrible! My parents are not mad at him nor will they take any action against him. So now she needs to recover from that and get used to the colostomy. So please pray for a safe recovery for her from here on out! A minor request: Please pray for patience for me! My same Aunt and Uncle (who called after her last surgery saying they couldn't understand why I wasn't there...THEIR kids would've dropped everything to come help! My parents had said not to come right then...) called and said my mom looked horrible and my dad wasn't eating. He has diabetes, so needs to be careful. They were very concerned about my dad as well as my mom! Then my uncle said, "If you can't be here then you should try to keep in touch with them sometime!" WHAT??? We e-mail at least once a day, and call on the phone at least once a week. I am very aware of what's happening, and the plan was that she would have the surgery, she'll get home health care for a couple of weeks, then soon after that we'll be there for Thanksgiving. That was their request, so that's what we decided to do! I called my dad soon after that and asked how things were. He said she's doing much better. I asked if he was not eating. He said he skipped one meal while she was in the operating room because he wanted to be there when she came out of surgery. He made sure to eat when he got home, even though it was 2am by then. Sigh!
Bless her heart, Deena! And yours, too! Yes, I'm praying right now for a continued safe recovery for her, that she will adapt to the colostomy, and that you'll know how to respond to your unreasonable relatives. Some people will never change. Maybe they enjoy being mean and offensive, or maybe they really don't see what they look like from another perspective. Just don't give their ugliness any power over you. Don't let it rob you of peace or of a minute of wasted time. On the other hand, if you believe God wants you to give them advice, wisdom, or a word to get off your case, that would be great. It's just that in situations like this, I'm often tempted to watch the re-runs endlessly to no avail. It isn't worth it, unless the Lord is working in their situation. But then, again, I know you know all this; so I'll just lift you up in prayer. You'll do the best thing, and you'll be a great blessing and strength to your parents!
Oh Deena, buddy hang in there. Just remember you are doing whats best for your family and leave it at that. your Uncle is not in your shoe he doesn't know anything. As long as you and your parents are happy with your choices you have to answer to no one. I am sure glad she is doing alot better. Tell them we said Hi and give ((((((((Hugs)))))) from us when you see them next.
I hope that your parents are doing as well as they say, I know its so hard to be away from them..... I worry so much about my dad too.
Hi Deena- praying for your mom and dad, and also for your whole family. Not easy to deal with guilt coming from an "outside" source! I'm sure your parents are not thinking you are ignoring them while in need!! Glad to hear that your mom is healing better (how scary!). I wanted to share with you that my grandmother had a colostomy and she named it "Oscar". For her it was much better manners to tell one of us while on the phone that she needed to go take care of Oscar then to mention an "unmentionable". (She also got rid of long-winded friends, or telemarketers, etc by saying she needed to check on Oscar.... lol) Keep us posted! ((Hugs)) MT3
