:shock: The boy (just turned 14) casually commented this evening, "Mom, Dad, you do know I have a girlfriend, don't you?" Of course we didn't. How were we supposed to know? He's never invited the girl over. She did come to his birthday party, but so did two other girls. I asked him, "What does this whole girlfriend thing entail? Do you eat lunch together?" His sister (who also didn't know) butted in at this point and said, "Yeah, but he's been doing that since the beginning of the year!" My son turns pink. "Yes. We eat lunch. And there's hugging. Sometimes." He also takes her to the coffee shop, all by herself, and pays for her coffee. (Hey! This explains where all his allowance has been disappearing to!) The thing I can't figure out is how on Earth he thought we knew. We're not psychic! Funniest exchange: The boy says, "Mom, you know I don't talk about people I like." I said, "You talk about your best friends, Bill and John." He looked horrified. "I don't LIKE them!" :lol: Looks like we're embarking on a whole new exciting phase of parenting teens...
Oh, man. I can so relate. My then 14 yo had a similar "comming out" moment about a girlfriend. For him, though, it ended up that her father didn't allow her to have a boyfriend. Ds talked to him to ask permission and her father told him that he was liked Ds very much and that he was welcome to wait until his daughter was 18. Ds was willing, but the girlfriend wasn't. She ended up dumping Ds and finding another boy willing to go behind her father's back. I'm not sure if I have ever been more proud of Ds. That is when we knew he was mature enough for a relationship. Happy teen parenting to you!
Yikes. Mine are 17 and 15, and while each has a girl whom they think is special, it has not progressed to anything more yet. I'm in no hurry to change that! Welcome to the arena of teen dating- please leave instructions at the door for the rest of us! lol MT3
Actually, it's not the one who gave him the My Little Pony. It's the one he was going out of his way to torture with mild sexual innuendos (joking about "crabs", that sort of thing). These girls always seem to travel in a pack... She seems like a very nice girl from the little I've seen, but I told my son I want him to invite her over occasionally. I'd like to get to know her a little better. He's planning a Christmas party in two weeks, so that's a start anyway.
Eeek! I'm getting a teen for Christmas this year. She turns 13 on Dec 23rd. DH is getting a t-shirt that says "DADD - Dads against daughters dating"
Oh wow That just seems so young to me! My parents never really discouraged us from dating, but did challenge us to take it seriously and not date just "for fun". They told us to consider the fact that we could hang out with lots of people until we were old enough to consider someone "marriage material". I still "dated" someone when I was 13 I believe, but it didn't last long, haha.
That shows real maturity and integrity. You should be proud! :love: Boy, that makes my husband seem lenient. He's letting them go at 40! :lol:
I've got seven teenagers in my basement right now. They're having a great time! Lots of chatter about Dr. Who. I also finally got a chance to see my son and his girlfriend interacting with each other - they're really not "dating", at least not in the sense I understand it. He isn't holding her hand or hugging her in front of anyone, or in any way acting like they're a couple. He's just sitting sort of near her and beaming a lot. It's very cute!
