HELP....... My kids went to summer camp. WOW The are NOT growing up at the same rate as ps kids and that is who they are socializing with at camp. I do drive school buses and see what goes on all the time. But this blew me away... My daughter was texting a friend from summer camp on my phone. A few days later I happened to look at it. Her friend who is 10!!!! Was telling my daughter about her boyfriend how she gave him her phone number and then some. But she didnt want to write it out in a text. Holy smokes.... My husband sat down and talked to my daugher about the situation. How that isn't a good influence etc etc But my daughters birthday party is Saturday and she is coming and asked to bring her boyfriend. My daughter said, no. But we also told her we didn't want her talking to her anymore. I am struggling accepting a gift to someone we don't want our daughter hanging out with. But how to do you call and say, "Hey don't come" I don't know these parents and I don't want to judge but its not working for me.
Ugh... that's a tough one. I think I may would feel inclined to call and talk the parents about the text. I imagine they would want to know what the "some" is that their daughter is giving a boy. And this way, if they get mad at you, then you probably won't have to worry about the girl coming to the party, and you may save a girl from making some poor choices.
Yeah, I'd ask the parents about that text. Perhaps they're completely clueless and think they're daughter is sweet & innocent?
I don't even know the parents or their phone numbers. So it would be a confrontation at the birthday part which part of me doesn't think that is fair.
Perhaps reply to the text. Tell the girl that her parents need to call you to discuss the party, or else she's not invited.
A parent will be dropping this child off for the party right. Get their phone number. Then you can call them after the party and share with them what you found.
True, I guess I can contact them through the text and/or after the party. I just hate confrontation. I have to do it all the time and I hate it. Can you hear me stamping my feet. LOL
It will be very difficult to tell people you do not know what their daughter is up to. If they do know, they will be offended. Personally, I couldn't care less if they were offended, but everybody is not me. So the next best thing that comes to my mind is that confrontation doesn't always have to be brutal. Be nonchalant about it. Play it cool. Text the girl. Tell her you need to discuss the party with her parents IF she is going to attend. Tell the parents that you look forward to meeting them and that you appreciate them allowing their daughter to attend. However, their daughter mentioned that she wants to bring her boyfriend. Since you planned the party for a set number of people, you are supper sorry but she isn't going to be allowed to bring her boyfriend. Now, if I were you, I would allow the girl to attend. After the party, have your daughter cut ties with her. No explanations needed. Kids do it all the time. If you are concerned the girl might text or say something inappropriate to your daughter, tell your daughter to be kind at the party but that she is to mingle with all her friends and no texting allowed at a birthday party. This way she isn't glued to this one friend having her head filled with trash. I do not know if this will work, but you will not have to directly tell complete strangers what their kid is up to. Your daughter can accept the gift knowing the girl was invited. Once the party is over, bid the friend adios for good. ...or you can be like me and tell them there was a change of plans and their child isn't invited because she shared some inappropriate information with my daughter and as her parent I am cutting the friendship. It is a done deal either way.
