Our family has been going through a tough time and I desperately need prayer. In the last year and a half my husband lost his job and has been struggling with several addictions. I have been as supportive as I can but today I had to make him leave the house. My kids are emotional as expected and I feel like such a horrible person to them for kicking their daddy out. I honestly do not know what i am going to do from here on. I am firm that he will not return until he has completed a long term inpatient rehab but my kids are being broken by this experience. I do not know whether I can continue to homeschool, where our income is going to come from: everything is so up in the air right now so please pray for our family. Thank you
When I was little, my dad also suffered from addictions that tore our family apart. My mom made him move out until he went through rehab and they managed to stay together until about 4 years ago. Good for you for standing up for what is best for your kids and for you It will be tough for a while, but remember that His eye is on the smallest sparrow and your family is much more than a few birds in His eye. I will be praying for you!
I have done this too. He wouldn't admit to a problem, and that has to be the first step to fixing it. We are divorced. It was the hardest thing I ever did. And yes, there were issues that came up with the kids. Over all, even if I knew all the fall out in advance I would do it again. The roller coaster life with him in it was destructive. It wasn't a good example for the kids. And the message it would send to them about me staying would have been the most harmful. You did what was best for the kids, yourself and your DH. Even if it feels horrible right now. Be honest with your children. You would be amazed at how much they can understand. If you are honest, and convicted in what you are doing, they will have confidence in their life. Let them know it is because you care about him and them so much that you did this. It is the only way you have to make him get the help he needs. Addiction is an illness. You are making him get medical help. Keep the explanation simple and short. They don't need all the details, just the bare to the bone basic ones. If you ever want to unload, I am always willing to listen. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
So sorry this is happening to your family. But know this, that you are doing the best thing. Having someone with addictions in the house is no way to live. I agree with ForTheSon when she says to keep the explanation to the children simple. You aren't doing it to be mean to dad but he needs to get medical help right now. Here's hoping things work out for the best for you, your children and your husband gets the help he needs. ((hugs))
Praying. As the adult child of an alcoholic, I can say that I wish my mother had done this. I lived in fear of my Dad. Perhaps he would have stopped drinking if she gave him a wake-up call.
Your first priority right now is the safety and well-being of your children. Praying this will be the first step of your husband getting the help he so desperately needs!
(((HUGS)))) hope all is going ok. You did the right thing. You thought of your children first. Hopeful he will get the help he needs.
