http://www.doorposts.com/details.aspx?id=14 I got this in the mail yesterday and love it, but I need some help with the consequences. They do give ideas but they are pretty open ended [loss of privilege], [additional work]. So could you guys give me some ideas on your own loss of privileges or additional work. Also it gives a possible consequences of double restitution when they steal from others. What would I do there? What I have thought of so far: go to bed early, no tv, no play set.
Ava, if you want one, I have one that's laminated. It was given to me, but I never used it. I THINK know where it's at! Send me a PM if you're interested.
The one I have is the Blessing Chart. It has things on the side...Cheerfulness/thankfulness, Peacemaking, Truthfulness, Obedience, etc. Each has a verse (some two or three) to go along with it, and third a place to write a "consequence" for being whatever it is. Really, it's hard to write a tangible consequence for peacemaking, or diligence!
i also ordered the blessing chart. But it is different then the if then chart. the if then is to help change behavior the blessing chart is to encourage behavior. and yes you fill in the last part.
Interesting... I had no idea such a thing existed. It kind of takes away the opportunity for the parent to discipline on a case by case basis. I don't offer the same consequences for each child because each child responds differently. To the OP - Restitution would be making up for what they have done wrong - fixing the problem. So, let's say they stole something. Then, if the consequence is "double restitution" they have to fix the solution 2 times over. (Earning money to pay back what was stolen, apologizing, giving something to the person they stole from etc.) I would leave the restitution ideas up to the kids - I often ask mine how they will fix the problem, rather than me handing out an unrelated consequence. I do this even with my preschool aged kids. If you've taught your children well, they will be able to recognize how to solve the problem - of course I am always there to offer ideas.
I have to agree with this.. I don't want a set rule for how I will discipline any one act, because what works for each of my kids is different, and it also depends on the severity of the "crime" as to how harsh the punishment.
Exactly! If the offense is committed by the same child three times in one day I am going to respond differently the 3rd time than I did the first time!
