I hear you there. If I had 12 more, I think I would want them all to be boys! Except, I really wanted to name a girl.
Amie, I agree! I don't think I'd know what to do with a girl I'm so used to my boys. Besides, when I babysit my friend's girls I say to myself "I love these kids, but I'm so glad mine are boys!"
see, I had three girls before having a sweet little boy. Four was our limit boy or girl. I hate it when people assume that we kept trying in order to have our boy. My girls are great and I'm glad they are girls and my boy is wonderful too. We are blessed to have what we have for they are all gifts from heaven. Getting a baby of a certain gender is certainly no reason to keep having babies if you're not going to accept them for who they are.
Another "Amen" to that. I had 3 boys and then lost 7 babies that were all boys. I finally had another son and people assumed I was disappointed he wasn't a girl. I finally started telling people that I was just thrilled that he was ALIVE. That usually shut them up, especially if they knew my pregnancy history. After having another stillborn son, I had a little girl and I get soooooo annoyed when people ask if I kept trying until I got a girl.
Why do people think its their business? That's what I don't get. What vibe are we giving off that gives people the idea that we are ok with them digging into our personal lives?! I do get the "oh you have your hands full!" thing all the time. ugh
Amen! We had three girls and then had a boy also (who was a total surprise). I hate that people just assume that's why we have so many and why we stopped after he was born. We actually planned to be finished after the third girl:lol:
Wow, I feel kinda poopy for really wanting a girl! lol. Our ultrasound is up in the air right now as to what it is so we don't know. I just think it would be fun to name a girl, get the dresses, and fix the hair. lol. I do love my rough and tumble boys, and I would NOT trade them for anything. If we do have another boy I will be THRILLED and ESTATIC! That being said... It IS sad that people assume that other's childen are burdens and that their free time is so valuable that they can't let their child in on it with them. I mean...I need my space every now and then, but I love cuddling with my boys on the couch and reading books during a "relaxing" time. Do many parents experience that who feel the way they do about their kids leaving all year for school?
Oh Meg, please don't feel bad. I don't think there's anything at all wrong with hoping for a certain gender. But I know you (sort of) well enough to know that you'll be happy with whatever child you're blessed with! I think Anna makes a great point. I get sick of the "you know what causes that, right?" comments, too. Also from strangers! They assume my children were an accident or just a result of unprotected sex. Because no one could possibly actually want several children, right? *roll eyes* Yeah, my fourth was an "oops" but that only means God knew we needed him more than we knew we needed him.
well *I* am going to have a PARTY on the first day of school. !! WEDNESDAY! can't wait, for my bratty neighbor kids to be GONE!!!!! and the added BONUS, ! I don't have to listen to their mom scream constantly!
Oh I love that! I'm hoping for another baby one day, but I'm not getting my hopes up as my PCOS is getting much worse, so I think it will be very hard to get pregnant naturally and we don't want to do any medical intervention to achieve pregnancy...hubby wants a girl, but I want another boy! I already have all the clothes and toys for a boy! LOL Plus, I'm not sure I wouldn't kill a teenage girl if I had to live with her LOL I didn't even like teenage girls when I was one That and we plan to stop at 3 no matter what sex it is, and I don't want people to think we had a 3rd child to get our 'girl' as if our boys are not good enough! But to be honest, I've always said I didn't care what the first one was, I just wanted all same sex children....it just seems easier... Both my boys are asking for a baby sister though, since my SIL had a baby girl LOL I don't think they know what they are asking for!!!!! LOL But I would so be happy with either sex. I just want another baby!!!
Oo man. A lot of people really just don't think of their kids as the fantastic little creatures that they are. People don't have respect for their children, so children just become a bother to them. another thing to take care of. I'd be an absolute mess if I had to put my kids in school. Days get stressful every now & then but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I want my kids with me =)
Sonita- I was told by three different doctors that I would never achieve a pregnancy naturally. I have a unicournate uterus and my hubby had counts so low you could do it on one hand. After I got pregnant the first time my doctor told me to count my blessings because the odds of it happening again were astronomical. 5 weeks PP I walked into his office to confirm my second pregnancy. 3 years later my precious angel came and went and two years after that my Lukey was concieved. My point is that God is in the business of miracles! He gave me 4 pregancies and 3 babies here on earth after every doctor told me there was NO WAY! If it is in his will your PCOS wont get in the way
I love that! How true and so often forgotten. I can say I always wanted one boy and one girl and in that order. Don't ask why I wanted them in that order perhaps I was irrational after so many years of not conceiving. I just know I wanted each to experience mothering each. Although I would have been happy anyway just to have a baby! First baby had to return to God. Second was my boy And I literally prayed and prayed and prayed my next would be a girl. God granted my prayer. Miracles happen all the time we just need to recognize them for what they are.
Sonita- I was told by 5 OBGYNs, before my 1st, that I would never be able to get pregnant. I have two wonderful boys and then had a tumor the size of a watermelon on my left ovary. Had a partial Hysterectomy, removing everything female on the left side. No more babies for sure now. Oh, what do doctors know? :lol: I have two more wonderful boys and have been pregnant 5 times after my ph. God is good and knows what we need and knows way more than the DRs.
I didn't have time to read all the other responses but I am so with you on this. That is exactly how my FB has been too. I just don't get it. Why are these people even having children if they don't want to spend time with them. It took me years to have the two I have and I am so very thankful everyday for them.
Just today on my FB I found this post from an old friend from High School "My BABY is starting school in the morning I cant believe it! Dominic asked me if I'm gonna be lonely- I said boy I can't wait to be lonely! I've been waiting 7 years to be lonely!! - he didnt like that answer!" - UGH! Why did you have the child if you couldn't wait to get rid of him? I feel so bad for that little boy!
I know it could still happen, and do believe in miracles, I had 2 I'm just being realistic, my PCOS is getting REALLY bad-not ovulating at all now, so I know it's slim chances. I firmly believe though, God will bless us with as many as we need, whether it's 2 or 3 or 4.
