Why is it that when men are sick (I'm referring specifically to my husband right now) that they are so miserable, pathetic and can do nothing for themselves? I worked all night last night and while it wasn't overly physical or anything like that (I can doze when the patient dozes), I was awake every two hours to turn and re-position and all that good stuff. yeah, you get some sleep if he sleeps but it's not quality sleep because it's interupted so much. I get home this morning and hubby was supposed to drive Noah to school (he could have avoided that if he would have gotten out of bed when I called him!). I nicely crawled into bed and just started to get to sleep and Noah ran in crying his eyes out that Daddy wasn't going to take him to school - "I don't feel good" :x So out of bed I get, have to dress and off to the school I go - and then when I got home I thought I might actually be able to sleep - that was well over 8 hours ago - I haven't been to bed yet!!! I called hubby's cousin and asked him to go fishing tonight so that hubby would take all the boys with him (he woudln't take them all if someone didn't go with him - even still, he still wanted to leave one of the boys home with me! Not that I don't love them or want to be with them, but I really need some sleep right now). So off to the fishing hole they have gone. But before he left, he wanted me to go too!!! What part of I'm tired and need to sleep before I go to work tonight doesn't he get?!?!?! I have it all planned for tomorrow - when I come home tomorrow morning - I don't care who's home and who isn't - I'm going to bed. If we try to go off on the no sleep day again, I'll just make it clear that I won't be working tomorrow night because of a lack of sleep - that will get me some peace and quiet and some sleep. So now that they're all out for a couple hours, I'm going to bed - night all! (Thank you for listening to me whine...) Brenda
Bless your heart!! I hear ya'! I work nights, too. I can't tell you how many times I've worked at night, taught the kids their schoolwork, did housework, etc. Then, when dh comes home from work, I say, "I'm going to Wal-Mart" --b/c I have to get out of the house BY MYSELF-- and he says, "Why don't we ALL go?" I could just pinch his head off!! Hang in there, Brenda. We're all here for you!
WooHoo! I got all of an hour for sleep before they came home - hubby had to rush in and tell me that Andrew fell and may have a broken thumb... off to being the mom nurse now. :cry: Brenda
Aww Brenda, I understand this too, ok i dont work, but it seems men have not much understanding at times. I feel for you and hope you will soon be able to catch up with your sleep.
Sounds like my husband as well. Isn't that interesting how it seems they all share one brain? The one difference is that my husband hates shopping and never wants to go with me. I also seem to have that same issue with ending up at Wal-mart whenever I need to get out of the house. Ours is only 2 minutes from our house so thank God it's not a Super Wal-mart or else I'd be in big trouble!!!
I see it as a gender defect. They see things so black and white and thjey don't see anything indepth. Gender defect.
JERK! Today he asks me if I have something going on with his cousin "what's going on with you guys?" :shock: (Because our house is the place to be for his cousin on Saturday nights and then they went fishing a couple days last week and again, yesterday (granted I did ask him to take him fishing so that I could sleep last evening) and they're out today). 1) When on earth would I have time - I work all the time lately 2) Why would I want to? 3) I don't even have enough time to fix my own hair because I waste so much time catering to him!! Our home seems to be the entertainment capital for his cousins on weekends. A couple months ago I gave hubby the ultimatum - you can have them here or you can have your family, but not both (they were here ALL the time time adnd can be obnoxious when they want to be). It didn't slow them from coming over. Instead of fighting it (or walking out like I said I would), I gave up camping out in my room (which I had been doing when they were here - coming out for a drink or to go to the bathorom) and decided to be sociable. Look where that got me... What is wrong with this picture (other than the obvious fact that I really need my own head examined right now for even putting up with it)?!? God gave me broad shoulder's but man this is retarded :shock: :? Brenda
I hope to catch you online SOON! I'll be praying over your situation. He did give you broad shoulders, but he allows us to have these burdens that we can't bear alone.....He wants you to give it up to Him. And I don't doubt that He is working on your hubby, too....although I know it seems like you are getting the short end of the stick. Hubby needs to get to a surrender point....and sometimes that only comes when a man's wife can literally handle no more of him :shock: :shock: :shock: I would encourage you to seek some godly councel, which we are told is wise, and have them pray over you and your family's situation. It sounds like the breaking point is coming!--and I hope you are able to see that as a very, very good thing.
Your husband thinks you're CHEATING ON HIM??? All you talk about is church or AWANA! I would wonder what HE is up to, that he's accusing you of outlandish things.
He wouldn't cheat on me I do know that... since that comment was made, I had the chance to talk to him about it and cleared it up. A couple months ago, I gave him the ultimatum to spend time with his family or with his cousins but not both. He did ask them to stay home a couple different weekends so that we could do something as a family, but there wasn't a lot of change - they still came over on weekends. I used to spend my time in our room reading, talking on the phone or something quiet and then I decided I wasn't going to be a prisoner in my own home and decided to be 'sociable'. He wondered what the "change" was all about (why all of the sudden, I wasn't staying in the room and appeared to be tolerant of them being here) - when I explained my reasoning to him, it made more sense to him - I gave up fighting it. I just don't care anymore. I'm too tired to fight this retarded battle with him :? Brenda
Lifting you up here, sister! As strange as this may sound, I think you are doing the right thing. Sometimes we have to step back, shut up, and be a silent witness. I know those were the times that impacted my hubby the most--only cuz he told me months down the road that my shutting up made his heart soften. Doing battle is tough on all involved. That is one of the blessings of being a wife. WE aren't the ones ultimately responsible for our household decisions (nobody jump here, I think we all know what I mean). And when we are worn out from all the other battles going on in our lives it is a relief to know we can come home and relinquish control to the hubby. And if yours is anything like mine, when you start handing over more control to him he will answer the call cuz all of a sudden he realizes that he's gonna have to be responsible. Just trust God on this one....He tells us to do this--and ya know He knows what He's talking about!
