My daughter is in ps, and I have no plans to take her out. She is doing wonderful and has tons of friends She will be in 2nd grade next year. Our son has adhd and has been in a private school this year. I love his private school, love their teachings, and love him coming home telling us all about what he learned about the bible. It doesn't appear we'll be able to continue that education due to financial restraints. I won't put him back in the ps situation because I feel with adhd its crucial for him to have those small class sizes or 1 to 1 attention so we have decided to start hs next year for 1st grade. It is my hope that at some point he will be able to go back to ps either in 6th grade at middle school or 9th grade at high school. I had a ps education and have so many fond memories of my high school years. But I didn't have the challenges academically he has with adhd so it will also be a year by year basis. Right now he's been asking me to go to ps like his sister but I just don't feel right about it just yet. I keep praying about it and God is leading me on this path so we'll just see how far it takes us
This is exactly my family's plan. And, if the Lord tells us something different, we'll do something different.
We are going one year at a time. But I would like to go all the way through High school. I made excellent grades and had lots of friends in school. But I do not want my kids to be in that environment and expected to learn. I really struggled in College because I wasn't taught things, just how to take a test. I was in the top 10% in high school. I want my kids to really know the information. I want them to be well equipped for what life has in store for them. I do not think that High school will teach them that. Because I have never been in a situation that was similar to high school in my adult life.
I think hsing should stop when it's not working anymore. You have to take emotions out of it and see it in black and white, in order to make that decision.
Good point, Becky! Though there are other reasons, too. I've quit with Rachael so she can get college classes for free, not because it's not working for me.
NEVER!!!! LOL No....I have a story..... We decided to homeschool prior to having children. Prior to being married, even. Crazy, I know. We attended a church where we had to attend the premarital class (funny thing is we were never supposed to last according to our Mentors....we're getting ready to celebrate 16 years in a few weeks - last I heard of our Mentors? Divorced). Anyway....I digress. I used to threaten when we had bad days. And one day I told my husband I was going to do it it. He said "fine, then you play with them all day, and when I come home from work, I'LL do the homeschooling, too". That was sort of a kick in the pants to me. Since then, we sat the kids down and talked to them and let them know why we are committed to homeschooling, and that we are committed to it, and why we feel it is the right choice for our family, etc. The funny thing is that since we sat down and verbalized that, and made that commitment to the kids - we've had bad days, but none where I felt I could say I'd ship them off to school. We all have found a way to work around the problems, and work with each other. It's kinda like a marriage. We made the commitment, and we're sticking to it...if it's not working then Homeschooling isn't the problem, WE are and WE need to fix it. I hope that makes sense.
Homeschooling should stop when God is leading the parent in that path. I can easily say I will homeschool through 12th grade, and while that is my plan and I assume it is God's plan, things in life do change and sometimes we have to make choices we may not necessarily want to make. For some, this is putting their children in public or private school. But if God isn't leading me in this direction, I am seeing it through to the end.
We are the year by year right now. In our state even HS kids can be in all extra circulatory activities in our home School district. To me it will be up to the kid. I hope that my eldest will spread his wings and fly with HS. (My Ds #@ may HS through college.)
We are at the crossroads of this decision right now.. When we pulled the kids out of ps 5 years ago, hubby agreed on a trial bases.. Then when he saw that it was going to work he said "they go back in high school." My son will be going into highschool next year and as much as I want him to stay at home, HE wants to go.. I'm open to letting him try. We have a decent school district. VERY small classes. The school he will go to is a k-12 all in one building. My son wants to go to play sports. Believe me, I'm in total agony at the thought of what lies ahead for him. I'm praying like crazy that he won't go astray. Hubby says that our son will be miserable but it's his decision.. I'm torn, I want him home but I know that if I force him to stay home he is going to fight it.. So as it stands, unless hubby puts his foot down and says that he will stay home, he's going back.... The plan for my other children is to homeschool through highschool..
Girl! And you didn't take him up on that???:lol: I totally see your point. I tried everything I could think of to change Jeannie's attitude toward her work. Her attitude wouldn't change, so I had to make a change. School shouldn't be synonymous with negativity, and that's how it got here.
God will indeed let you know when He's ready for you to change! ( I'm sitting here, saying 'who is she on FB???' lol.)
Homeschooling through high school I am a veteran homeschooler. I have been homeschooling since my oldest learned to read at 2 1/2 years old. I just just graduated him last week with honors! He will be going on to college in the fall. My daughter will be a senior next school year and my youngest will be a sophmore as well. I have to admit that deciding to homeschool thru high school was scary! But I have since learned that it was the right decision. For all of you who are as scared as I was, ask the lord to help you in the decision process. It is possible to effectively homeschool thru high school. My oldest won a scholarship recently. He was the first homeschooler to win this scholarship. We are so proud of him!!! Angie
We don't belong to that particular church. I went to many private schools looking for the right fit for my adhd son. He's had a fabulous year since I pulled him out of ps. Its hard for me to believe the year will be over for him June 1st They told me to talk to the principals but honestly my dh just took a pay cut and even then we'd make too much for financial assistance. Its just more of a discretionary income thing to be able to afford the tuition monthly not a financial hardship per say. With the paycut we just don't have the extra cash after paying bills each month to afford the 'community' tuition. Now if I were to join the church we could swing that payment per month (its about half the price) but I'm not sure I feel right about joining a church just to get a monthly tuition break kwim??? I'm going to keep praying about it. I have all summer to make a decision. I know he's not going back to ps, and I live in Indiana where hs laws are super easy so one way or another he's going to have a good education
I'm in the "It depends" camp! It depends on your kids, it depends on your schools, it depends on your family, and it depends on you. Just using one of my kids as an example... I homeschooled my daughter through grade four. Then my daughter had the opportunity to enter the gifted program at our school and we looked at our nervous little girl and decided that she needed a little bit of a push. If it didn't work out, she could always come home. But she needed to let go of us a little. (Literally - we couldn't leave our house without that kid hanging onto her father's arm for dear life.) It was rocky at first - basic social skills have never come naturally to that girl. But the other children were not cruel, the teachers were kind, and in short order she bloomed in confidence and maturity. She found a talent for singing. I remember the day she came home all wide-eyed and said, "Mama, people like me! They genuinely like me!" Now she's in high school, and I'm frankly thrilled with what I see. Through comparing notes with the other girls, our daughter has learned a real appreciation for her family, and started saying, "Thank you, mom!" instead of telling me everything I've done wrong. She's learned to speak up for what she believes. My daughter recently participated in a student-run fundraiser for youth mental health. She's involved in a number of clubs. She's mapped out a plan for her future, and is applying herself in school. And she's learning to navigate the streets downtown without being afraid. She even got lost on the bus system once, and managed to find her way home without panicking. I think we got lucky. Our schools are good. The teachers care about the kids. And the children themselves are... not angels, but a heck of a lot nicer to each other, than we were when we were kids. It's not paradise, but for us the benefits to being in school outweigh the benefits we'd get right now from homeschooling. For us, the public school system was less about academics than it was about gradually preparing my girl to set out on her own some day. I needed to show her that she could leave for a few hours, or even a couple days, and I'd still be here when she came back. She could have a life of her own. Other kids probably wouldn't need this kind of thing. But this is the little girl who sobbed for weeks when she was three over the fact that she couldn't be an astronaut, because that would mean leaving her whole family behind on Earth. Homeschooling was just feeding into the whole homebody thing, with her. (My son, on the other hand, announced he'd had enough of all this family closeness and begged to go to school for grade 5! But that's another story.)
Wow great thread! I am also in the "it depends" camp. If it were up to me my kids would not set foot in a school til college. But very close friends are sending their HSed daughter to high school next year. It scares me to think of her in that environment but it is a very small school and she is very confident and well grounded in her faith. I think overall she will do well because all she cares about is horses! LOL. She doesnt have time for boys or drama and she will tell you that! So if my boys are super grounded and strong in their faith and need that transition into the "real world" through high school, perhaps they will go. Because my one concern is sending them off to college and them just going wild or something...not that I know anyone who did that :roll: Hopefully I will raise my boys better than that and it wont be an issue. However I have another friend who HS her kids through high school and has them go to bible school for their first year of college. I think thats also a great idea. They then have to choose a christian college. I think I would let them go to a secular school if there was a specialty or a reason. But who knows...I'm not even certain they will go to college. And I dont really care if they do. Its their choice. Where we live and what we do, its not a requirement. If they want to carry on the family business and skip college, we will train them to do that. Its all about training them to be contributing members of society and to be Godly husbands and fathers someday. The rest is just bonus.
I have a friend who homeschools through grade 5, then Christian school for 6-8, and then public school for high school. They feel that their children need to be "in the world, but not of the world", and this is how they gradually have them do that. Not my plan, but it works for them! Their oldest, about 30 years old, is currently the youth pastor at our sister church, where my girls attend youth group.
When should homeschooling stop?? When it is no longer working for either party. If I get in over my head or the kid isn't enjoying it, then it is time to try something new....... It is the same answer I give about Public School.
