I met this woman a while back. We ran in to each other at the doctors office. Recently, we ran in to each other again. We got to chit chatting and exchanged numbers. Our doctors office is close to my house, but she actually lives a distance away. We said we would get together next time she comes to town. I am thinking she said she will be around next week or so, not sure of exactly when. This woman, who seemed really nice, turns out to be a public school teacher. In talking with her, she has told me (she just offered it up) that she "had to" report 2 families from her classroom to CPS this year. She teaches preK and kindergarten. She said she works in a very small district and the classes are quite small. She told me the reason she reported these families were as follows. One family, the child was not completing his school work. She felt that was educational neglect. The other family, the child kept having accident in his pants, which she felt was a sign of sexual abuse. This woman is about 4 years younger than me. She has no children but is trying to conceive. I don't want to be the meany, but, would you actually continue this friendship? She has never met my children, but she makes me nervous now that she has told me why she reported those people to CPS. I am steering clear of this woman from now on. But I don't think I am even going to tell her why. I don't want to be the next one to tick her off.
It would be wise to not carry a close friendship with her. If those are the only reasons for her calling CPS, she is definitely trouble in the making.
I would not associate myself with someone who calls cps for such things. Kids wet their pants for various reasons from medical issues like having undeveloped bladders to just waiting too long before using the restroom. I would not want to be her next victim or invite someone that I have prior knowledge of calling CPS for such trivial things into my life. I would just politely be busy if she calls. I would quietly step out of the picture!
It's better to be safe than sorry. Once you have CPS in your life it's hard to get rid of htem. I just turned down a daycare job, the mom was offering REALLY good money to watch her 2 kids but then I found out she actually worked at CPS and I couldn't say no fast enough! Amy
Oh, my!!! I would also have little to nothing to do with this woman!!! If she considers THAT abuse, can you imagine what she could find wrong about YOU? I mean, my house usually has some dirty dishes in the sink, so obviously that is also neglect!
wow this lady sure will learn a lot when she has her own kids won't she........ then she won't be so quick to call CPS.
I knew someone who was a cps whiner and she asked why people didn't like her. Well, let me think.......:roll: She came over to my house once to drop something off and later that day made a comment about the basket of clothes on the chair that needed to be folded. I asked her how she knew about the basket of clothes. She replied, "Oh, you didn't answer the door so I just walked in, saw the basket of clothes, I checked and the clothes were still warm, you must have just left". :roll: :shock: I politely told her that she was not welcome in my home that we were not good enough friends for her to assume it was okay to walk into my house and certainly not okay to check to see if the clothes were still warm from the dryer. She seemed offended. Oops! Then she went over to where my dh works (her dh worked there too) and proceeded to tell my dh what happened and that I was too "jumpie"! Dh just reiterated what I had already said to her, though he was not quite as nice. She has never come to my house again, that I know of! :shock: Shocker! She could have turned me in for laundry neglect!
WOW. Aside from whether the decisions she made about the situations to report were wacko or not... I was a certified teacher in several states, taught over a decade in two. FIRST: In the states in which I was qualified to teach, teacher were mandatory reporters. We were trained in signs of abuse and REQUIRED BY LAW to report situations which displayed these signs. Also, a mandatory reporter isn't only required to report what she sees in her classroom/medical practice, etc - s/her leagally is compelled to report. Take that for what it's worth. SECOND: In the states in which I did teach, teacher were prevented, also by law, from discussing private information about students. This is why your child could be in the same class with another child that might be causing problems but the teacher isn't allowed to clue you in - not your kid, can't talk about it. If she was in either of those two states, she would have violated the law. Beyond that, she blantantly violated those children's privacy by talking with you, a virtual stranger. There may have been more to the stories which she chose not to share, more which would have shed light on why these might have been appropriate reports. BUT, she should NOT have told you ANYTHING. Personally, I would have nothing to do with her. If she feels, in her judgment, your children are being abused/neglected, she is compelled to report you (and it sounds as if she won't hesitate).
Wow. I was wondering what the big deal was until you said WHY she called. I'm betting even CPS wishes she would dry up and blow away. Definitely stay away.
I wouldn't waste my time on her, she is targeting in on her new CPS call and you are her target. No I would run so fast she wouldn't remember she talk to me... Turning a child in because they wet is not a reason she needed to check out the sources first, like was it her the child was scared of, if she yelled or stuff in class that child could of got scared and wet then. Could be pessure of other things too, Could be infection? Check it all out before you call CPS So you run so fast she will think you were a road runner and not a person she once knew
If she thinks a child not turning in assignments is "educational neglect", I wonder what she would make of HSing? You may well already be on her radar <sigh>. Someone called CPS (DFACS, at the time) on us at one point (not for HSing, but for something DD said; she was 3 at the time), and it gave me nightmares for months. It didn't help that Atlanta had just had several toddler/young children deaths whose families had been investigated by DFACS and they decided to leave them in the custody of the people who killed them. I knew I hadn't broken any law, but I was so nervous about the fact that they could decide to take my kids. They scheduled an appointment with us after we weren't there when they first showed up; worst week and a half of my life. <shudder> I'd sever the relationship - although she may decide that you are hiding on purpose and call CPS for that. SG
I had a neighbor like that! Oh she was terrible, which is why we moved. Once she found out we were hsing she called them and of course we got a surprise visit and then that lady was so against hmsing, it was ridiculous. She kept trying to force me to say that I would send my kids back to ps and there was no way I was going to do that. And according to our family mentor teacher at the time, that was common for some that worked for CPS to be against hmsing. This woman made it seem like it was corporal punishment for my kids which it wasn't. Eh.those were some bad times! And if this woman is anything like my old neighbor..I'd avoid her at all costs. My old neighbor made our life miserable for to dang long. She's still even went into where I work and made all kinds of accusations about me and my dh. Thank goodness everyone there knows she's crazy and blows her off.
I was thinking the same thoughts that eyeofthestorm mentioned. Yes, a teacher has to report if she feels there is abuse (although on the surface her reasons for reporting sound crazy to me), but there is no way she should be talking about that to anyone, much less a near stranger. I would not encourage the relationship and would come up with some excuses why it won't work for you to get together.
WOW! One of my twins reverted backwards in potty training when I put them in kindergarten,,,,, Of course, it was because they were the size of THREE year olds with some kids that were TWICE their size... but if someone would have shouted SEX abuse!.... aaahhhhh! And if they are going to report parents for not asking their kids do their homework, can we also turn them in for not whoopin some rear when it is needed? hahahaha!
that's another concern. I agree drop her as a new friend before she gets knows more about you and your family....
Ok, Im not totally against CPS. but in this case, I'd run very hard and fast the other way. And change my phone number.
That's exactly what I was thinking. If you meet up again, be friendly, but I'd definitlely stay away from a friendship.
