Hi all! I was just wondering if there are mom's on here who had babies after 40? We have three kids, the youngest is 6, and we have just decided to throw away the birth control and let nature take it's course. I don't know if I can still get pregnant as I'm now 42, but we want to try! People think I'm INSANE! But I think it would be fun! We are at a good place right now for another child, and we want one! So just wondering if there are other older moms with younger babies here? I'd love to hear your story! Edie
I personally couldn't do it, since I seem to have gotten more selfish in my "old age" and would really miss sleep. and going potty all by myself. But if you feel up to it, and feel like it's right for your family, then I think it would great to be an older mom. You've got experience, patience, and lots of little helpers! Don't worry about people thinking you're crazy, don't they think that anyway because you homeschool? LOL. Good luck!
Just had my last baby at 38. Don't know if I could do it after 40-I have always had really hard pregnancies though. Good Luck and I hope you get your wish too!
My first was the hardest. The second two were easy! Here's hoping for the ability to conceive and an easy 4th pregnancy!
I had my birth children when I was much younger but we adopted four children later on. When I was about 43 we got a three week old baby girl as a foster child. My husband and I both loved every second of her time here with us as a foster child. We went through all her baby stages as well as many doctor visits and operations to correct a birth defect. I loved getting up with her at night and spending that time rocking and feeding her. I got asked if I was babysitting my grandbaby a lot when we went out but that was okay. Today she is our beautiful 13 year old daughter and she keeps us young. Some of her friends still think I am her grandmother and that is fine. Her childhood has been extra precious to us because we knew she would be our last baby. We gave up foster care after over 20 years and just enjoy our blessings now. Best of luck to you and your family whatever you decide.
If I could, I certainly would. I had tough pregnancies, a lot of losses, and finally a hysterectomy (with complications). I'd love to adopt, but dh isn't interested. Given the opportunity, I'd definitely do it, though!
I see nothing wrong with it. My mom was 34 when she had me (I was the first), and she had my brother when she was 36. If you can have babies, then have them! They are a wonderful blessing from God! I wish DH would allow us to have more babies. I have terrible baby fever right now! lol
"Lots of little helpers" That's another thing I'm getting flack about. I think I would have it a bit easier this time around because I'd have older kids. I'm not expecting them to care for the baby for me, but it will sure be nice to have a 13 year old who can make us all lunch, a 10 year old who can clean up the playroom by himself and a 6 year old who can get her own snacks (or ask an older sib for help if she needs it). It will be a different experience than when I had three kids 6 and under. People tell me that's awful and I should expect ANY help from my teenager because she is going to be off busy with her own stuff. Uhm... sorry. I DO expect help from my kids. I'm not the maid, and we all pull our fair share.
My sister had her daughter at 41. My sister and niece both had complications but none of them were due to my sister's age. Sometimes the thought of another baby is a sweet idea, but it stops there. lol
ediesbeads- It was so DIFFICULT caring for my ONE child. When Beau was small (infant, tot) it was mind-numbing. After I had Paddy when Beau was about 18 months, things weren't so bad, and now that Beau is almost 5, Patryk is 3 and Marion is 18 months things are so NICE! I worked 10 times as hard when I had one child rather than now that I have 3. It's so odd. It helps that Beau can do simple things to help, and Pat too, like "Go get 'X' from the kitchen"...and so on. Kids always like to help.
I agree. If it's meant to be it will happen, can't hurt to try. We won't ever do anything permanent to prevent children so there will always be the possibility of more babies until I naturally hit menopause.
Teenagers off doing their own stuff? Well, that seems to be what's wrong with our world today, kids have no sense of responsibility and family unity. My oldest was 13 when my youngest was born and he was a ton of help, and he was never resentful about it. Having older siblings is such a gift to both baby and big bro/sis. Babies seem to really bring about deeper connections in a family. I know my 9 and 11 yr old would love to have a baby sibling, but that ship has sailed for me! If you still can, go for it.
I look after a healthy wee girl whose mum was 47 when she had her. One of our friends had her son when she was 43. Just eat plenty of folate rich foods and take plenty of folic acid supplement and go for it
I agree completely. My 9 and 7 yr old are always asking me why we can't have a baby, "because they're so cute".
My mom was 36 when she had me and she had health issues (not related to me at all) and was always too tired or in too much pain to DO anything with me. She was very...old fashioned in a 'I refuse to change with the world' type of way. And people always thought my parents were my grandparents, which, as a young child, I found very embarrassing. As a child, I resented that and SWORE I would never have a baby after age 30. I'm almost 35 now and would LOVE to have another baby! (Though medically speaking it is highly unlikely that I could become pregnant, but who knows, I did just give away ALL of our baby clothes! LOL) I think it's a very personal decision. There isn't a magic age at which no woman should ever have another baby, just as there is no magical age at which every woman is ready to have a baby. I say if you and your husband both want another baby, go for it! Some of the BEST parents I've seen were 'older' than average parents. They seem so much more confident and relaxed than younger parents. The maturity and wisdom that comes with age are handy skills for parents to have!
That's what I thought too. My mom was in her mid thirties when she had me, and I don't remember ever really PLAYING with my mom. I want to be able to run, jump, and play with my boys.
