Just wanted to remind/ask for prayers. We have our next court date coming up on Tuesday Dec. 13th at 9 am. I am not as anxious, nervous, and upset with this court hearing as I was the last. I feel God's hand in this and I know more what to expect. Jessie IS our little girl and God wont take her out of the only home she has known and put her with a man she has never known. Rod and I are her parents and we couldnt love her more. Please pray for us during this day, our lawyer, and the judge. Especially the judge that God will open his eyes to the truth. The bio father is lying up a storm in the courtroom. Also pray for Jessie. She doesnt really undertand what is going on. Thank you!
Sorry, one more thing. This will be the first time that I will leave my new little one. She will be 3 months old at this date and she will be with my mom. I know she will be very well taken care of, but it will be hard to be away from her as this is another all day court hearing.
Thanks Brenda. I also wanted to tell you ladies how much your prayers and friendship have meant to me. This whole court situation has been long going. I have recieved many private e-mails and such from many of you with warm thoughts and conerns for me and my family. In fact they all mean so much to me that I copied and pasted and printed out most of the responses and put them in Jessie's baby book. I want her to know how many people prayed for her and our family. Thank you all for caring for someone you never even met. It means more then words can say.
Thinking of Jessie a lot latley. I will be praying more about it. I was fasting for her a while back and I would encourage anyone to prayerfullly consider it now. I know I would want others to be praying as hard as I would for my own child. Love ya!
Oh man I thought that was over until after Christmas. I hate it had to be before Christmas. I am glad you are more relaxed this time. Praying for you all. Love and hugs, Lorna
Crystal, we will be praying here for God's will. On a side note though, is there a way to have your mom watch your little one for an afternoon or so BEFORE the court date so that you WON'T be dealing with both things at once? Just a thought to reduce your stress... momx3
I will Heidi thanks. momx3 - we see my mom several times a week, I know the baby will be fine there, I wont be fine going all day w/out her and I hope it doesnt conflict w/ my breastfeeding. She nurses every three hrs. I dont like to leave my children when they are so young.Thanks for the thought.
Crystal, are you able to pump? If you can, pump and freeze it for your mom. It's also good to have some frozen in case of an emergency. For example, if you were to get sick and the medication would leak into the milk and be harmful, something like that. I worked full-time with Rachael. I would pump every day at lunch and place it in the refridge at school. Then when I picked her up, I would poor it into little bags, date and freeze them in Mom's freezer. It worked very well for us. Sometimes if I was running a little late, the janitor would lock up the cafeteria, and I'd have to go find him to get my milk. But his wife had just given birth and was nursing, so he was VERY understanding with me, LOL!
Yes, I have already started pumping and freezing my milk for the court date. I also supplement with formula due to Avarie's weight. So I know she will be fine with a bottle. How does that work for me - I have never gone ALL day without nursing. I will nurse her right before we leave for court, but we are talking almost 10 hours or more until I will be able to nurse her again.
What kind of pump do you use? Is it possible to take it with you and pump somewhere? Ask your lawyer about that. I assume you have a lunch time. You may have to pitch the milk, but I can't imagine going ten hours. You'd be leaking all over the place before it's done, plus it would be rather painful. My best friend sent me an electric pump all the way from Florida, which was WONDERFUL!!! (Keep in mind, I pumped twice a day, five days a week, and once a day on the weekends for about nine months!) But when it arrived, she called and said that she had to restrain her husband from writing FOR BOVINE USE ONLY on the package, LOL! I told her I would have found that amusing, and not at all offensive (knowing her DH!)
Crystal, might I make a suggestion? I was a breastfeeding mommy, too (two kids for a combined total of over 4 years of nursing) and I know that 10 hours is too long for you to go without pumping or nursing. You might want to talk to someone (your atty or someone "official") about allowances for time to take care of that. For one thing it may cause undo stress that will affect your testimony, not to mention you could become so engorged that you get an infection. The court should allow for this as they would allow for any other physical limitation. There might even be a place for you to request this on one of your forms. HTH
Thanks Brooke and Jackie, I will be asking my lawyer about this when we meet next week. I just wish I didnt have to deal with any of this. I dont have time to go into detail, but this whole situation is sad. We have learned some info that if the judge knew about he wouldnt even have allowed this to go to court. The bio father is just full of lies, but its our problem to try and prove them. Just please keep us in your prayers that this will all be over soon. I am growing emotionally tired.
We are praying for you and your family here too. Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas what a Christmas it would be. I am like you never like to leave my children when they were young. I guess I should say I still don't. LOL
Crystal, just wanted to let you know of one more set of prayers on your behalf. My heart goes out to you and your family. Definitely ask about pumping on the day of the trial. I have to agree 100% with the advice the other ladies have mentioned. I don't know much about the court aspect of the situation, but is there a lunch break or something similar where maybe even your mom could arrange for you to visit with baby herself one time? (I hope that made sense.) I know personally that the pump never seems quite as effective as the baby, and all day is pretty long when normally she's always there. Then maybe once or twice pumping would be doable. Just a thought.
Thanks for all the advice, I really appreciate it. I was thinking of having my mom bring Avarie to the court house during our hour lunch break. We also get two 15 min. breaks, but that is not enough time for me to pump. Thank you for thinking of me!
