Do you know often I have heard that? I am sure you have also. What do some of these ladies think? I just heard this from a friend of mine. She didn't think she would stay home and homeschool because she couldn't be home "ALL DAY!" LOL. I said, "yeah, I used to spend 40 hours a week in an office...this isn't much different, except I couldn't spank my co-workers and I had a boss...and I had to punch in and out and had to only take an hour for lunch...couldn't just run an errand when I needed to or schedule and appointment or go to the park. yeah..it's tough being home ALL DAY...work sounds much better." LOL. Now, I don't blame my friend. Before I stayed home I didn't know how people did it either. Besides, if you can't stay home all day with those you love and control your own situation then you have bigger problems. Okay..that was a dig...many times my life at home is out of control. LOL.
I have heard that quite a lot from friends and family over the last few years. Recently one of them stayed with me for two weeks and was able to finally see what we do. I do think she was shocked by all the fun we are able to have and all that we do every week. Funny, she hasn't mentioned that to me anymore.
I hear that a bit too. I never know what to say. I just feel bad for those who feel that way. I don't understand how someone would prefer being away from their kids all day.
Actually a parent at my son's school just said this to me yesterday. She asked me what I was going to do since I had to keep him home all next week for spring break. I told her that he's probably follow along with his little brother's lessons and we would do lots of fun projects. Then she said "how can you stand to be home with your children all day every day? I would go crazy if I couldn't send my kids to school." I just told her that I enjoyed my children, that's why I have three of them, and that I prefer to have them home with me because they are so fun.
Maybe us homeschooling moms have just never grown up! Kids are just an excuse for us to do all those fun, childish stuff!!! We dpn't WANT to be "responsible" and spend all day in some office with four walls, pressure, and no windows!
When my kids were growing up, circumstances were such that I had no choice but to be out earning the living. We homeschooled ds because dh could be a stay-at-home dad, and he had his own upholstery shop, so he could make his own hours, and I did some with ds after I got home some days, and weekends, vacations, and holidays. I can't imagine not teaching SOMEbody, so we're schooling Other People's Kids, and now our DGS.
Some of my friends on Facebook will comment how glad they are that school is back in after a break. I think it is sad because I can't stand being away from my daughter for too long at all! I miss her so much. If she spends the night with a grandparent come the next morning I am calling to see what time I can pick her up! I love being with my daughter and wouldn't change it for anything!
Yea, heard that so much. If I had a penny for everytime I heard that I would have my pink jet paid for and gas for 10 years. I always make a remark: Well I can't be home alone all day without my kids.
Oh, I can very easily stand them being gone!!! But not for too long, and I wouldn't want them going to school every day!
I have a little secret that I hide from most people.....I've never used a babysitter. LOL, wonder what someone would say if I responded to their "I couldn't be home all day with kids" with that. But, I don't go there since the "no babysitter" thing is incomprehensible to most people I know.
That's funny...I knew a few women who said that who didn't work and sent their kids to school. lol. Seriously, no offense but I have no clue what I would do if my kids were in school and I didn't work. Well, I know what I'd do for a few days but then I'd want them back home.
Embassy....I can count on one had how many times I've used a babysitter! I don't mind my mom or my dh's mom...but beyond that we just don't have one. I don't feel I need one too often anyway.
I did work for a while when my dd was young but after my ds I cut back and then quit. I can't believe how much I missed out on by working. The things that you miss are priceless. I am glad that I was able to stay home when they were young. I can't imagine missing out on the rest of their childhood. It is very hard to try to explain it to a working mom but if you have worked and then came home you understand what I'm talking about.
My best friend when I was younger was like that. She didn't work, and sent her preschooler out during the day. AND she fussed about her husband watching the little girl. She'd be in one room reading, and the little girl would come in start get into something as preschoolers would, and rather than telling the little girl no, she'd complain that her husband wasn't keeping a good enough eye on her. It was HIS place to be watching the little girl, and my friend wasn't going to step in and deal with it when it was HIS turn!!! And all I could think was, "I thought parenting was suppose to be a JOINT effort! If your child is playing with fire, will you stop her, or yell for Daddy to come and deal with it?"
Some women are just wired like that. My mom and my sister are like that-both would rather work than be around kids all the time. That goes back for generations. Me, I ship Jeannie off to camp a few weeks each summer. It gets her time to herself, gets me time to myself, and I think that's healthy.
Lol- I agree with your friend, Jackie! Where was Dad? As long as the child wasn't bleeding from the eyeballs, Dad was on watch, not Mom. Dean does the same thing, lol. I think it's just a guy thing where they simply forget they are on duty.
I do think it's okay for moms and kids to have time apart. I will say that my mood does improve greatly after I've had a bit of a break. But I think that's normal also. I don't think its wrong for a mom to work. I just find the attitude that you can't deal with your kids all day strange. Yes, it's stressful and exhausting at times. Sure, you may wish you had a job sometimes...lol. However, isn't that with anything? If you worked 40 hours a week, you would want a vacation or need a break. Being home is no different...it's not a break in and of itself. We all do better refreshed. However, I don't say, "how can you stand being at work all day...doesn't that get annoying?" lol.
Lol- maybe you should say that! Maybe add a comment about having to answer to someone for 8 hours! I have to admit I do not miss having a supervisor!
Rachael bought me three Sunday afternoons last summer to go to the quilt shop and work on one of my projects! It's once a month from noon 'til eight. I had gone for the three spring months, but decided I couldn't really afford it for the summer. Rachael says "What do you mean you're not going again?" And then she gave me the $25 for the next three sessions as a birthday present!!! She said, "Mom, you're much nicer after you've been away like that!" LOL!!!
Neither do I miss having a supervisor, especially one who likes to micro-manage! I don't miss having someone tell me what I can wear and what not to wear. I don't miss having to punch in and out, or sign in and out. I don't miss having people who have no clue what it is you do, but they're danged sure you're doing it wrong! I DO miss having that paycheck!
