So I'm sure some of you have figured out that I am not so much a churchgoer and that we are somewhat secular...But I must say that I've been posting on another forum for secular homeschoolers and I don't fit in there AT ALL. But then I feel like I don't fit in here all that well either even though you guys are cool and this is the best HS forum I've ever posted on. Doesn't anyone ever get tired of NOT fitting in? I mean we can all probably relate because we have taken ourselves out of things somewhat by homeschooling in the first place but sheesh. I'm so tired of being on the outside...it has been SEVEN YEARS now, SEVEN years of homeschool and still I have no "place". And it isn't that I don't believe in God - I absolutely do - I just hate church and I don't want to pretend I'm something I'm not, ya know. And I am NOT going, period. Anyway - I'm really disappointed with the secular forum...they are not like me and I am not like them and now I feel like they were my last good hope of fitting into the homeschool world....if I keep posting I will end up saying something nasty to them...I can feel it. I'm so freaking different from everyone I know...I bet none of you have tattoos right? :?
I know what you mean. However, I've always felt out of place (my entire life), so by now I'm used to it. I may not completely fit in here, but everyone seems to accept me for who I am.. To me, that's all that matters. I've never really been concerned with fitting in, as long as people can accept me for me. Though, occasionally, I think it would be nice to find a place where I really fit in. BTW, I've got 5 tattoos.
Fitting in I don't fit in anywhere either, but I'm ok with it (after many years of adjustment). I don't go to church - I believe nature is our church, and yes, I do have tattoos - 3 to be exact, plus a number of piercings. It's all good mama - make it your own!!
Wrong, I do have a tatoo. I also drive my own Harley and dirt bike. My Christmas/birthday gifts are usually things like tractors, lawn mower and the occasional jewelry. On the flip side I teach junior/senior high Sunday School and awana. I participate in a couple Bible studies and I go to church every week. Does this make me a better person? No. But this is what I do for me, no one else. What works for one person may not work for the other. I would definately not look differently towards you just because you don't go to church. Please feel welcome here. We are all different and very unique in our own ways. If we were all the same, boy this board would be boring! Love having you here!
um, have ya noticed my nickname?? I do know how you feel. ((((hugs)))) Just go ahead and FLAUNT your differences!!! We're each unique and special, right? And yes, I have one tatoo. Although mine was done by a stupid 16 yr old with a big needle and purple indian ink.
I have a tattoo as well. Got rid of the extra piercing when I gained a bunch of weight - now lost it and some days would like the piercing back As someone who is just NOW going to church because of something completely out of my understanding (one day just NEEDED to go) - I understand where you are coming from. I have my issues right along with everyone else - but me .... as personable as I am - I don't really like too many people I wouldn't care if you never went to church. My good friend is I think Buddahist now - she likes the peace I guess is what she said when she told me. No problem. It's not MY place to judge anyone else. It's tough - but I'm slowly getting there I think that's what I LIKE about this board. I can ask pretty much anything and I'll get a bunch of answers - all of which are good - no matter how odd my question was So as a church-goer since the summer only - I say don't sweat it.
I don't fit into one group of people. As for church not even going there because as of now according to some people DH and I are going down because we don't read the bible every day so we don't have a relationship with God. Yet I can tell many of stories that we do have a relationship with him. As for tats, I have 3 so far.
I don't fit in anywhere, either. Never have, really, and not for good people trying to "help me out." I never have had the desire to adapt myself to fit in, even as a kid. I guess that's why homeschooling is such a good fit for *me* as a parent. If I was a ps parent, I'd probably spend the better part of the next two decades years being frustrated and stressed (which is kind of how I felt when I was teaching public school LOL). This*is* a great forum. I try to pop in daily. Even if I don't post, I feel grounded in other parents dealing with the same issues.
I always feel like I am the odd ball and I am totally cool with that. I have two tats and a navel ring.
This is a great forum to come to to find support for this homeschooling venture we are on! I don't have any tattoos and do attend church and am glad you are here on Homeschool Spot, ColoradoMom! Glad you started the thread, also. I enjoy reading the posts; life is made up of different people with living different lives. Each of you is important!!! We can learn from one another and we can rejoice and weep with one another no matter what we are facing...
Okay, did I post this under your name and just not remember it???? I could honestly have written that myself! Except almost 2 years here and I don't have a tattoo (dh does though, I'm just a chicken, rofl!). I don't hate church, I just haven't found one that suits me belief me I've tried.(long story...pm me if interested though). But our work is pretty secular except for a Bible class I do on fridays. I typically feel that way with not fitting in. It's actually stopped us from joining a couple of co-ops here because I can not honestly agree to and sign everything on their list. But I'm going to go read the other replies now...It was just surprising how much your post sounded like something I could have written!!! you're not alone! Okay, now that I've read everything...It is so cool to meet so many others who do not fit in either. I never did in my own school years and even when ds went to ps for 1/2 a year of kinder. I didn't fit in with the other classroom moms. Some of them were snooty and tried to shun me. Ooooh, that hurt my feelings so bad (not really). But it's good to find others of like minds. I wish I could find some locally here and start a support group!!!!
You bring back SOOOOO many memories with that line! OMGosh! My friend in high school tried to give me one. I actually agreed....then that needle started coming towards me....:shock:no way! Did I mention I am a chicken!:lol:
It sounds to me that you just are feeling a bit lonely and I certainly can sympathize with that. Whenever I have had those kinds of thoughts and went to the Lord, the question He would bring up in my mind is this: What do you want to fit into exactly? Actually, I did not want to fit into anything, I wanted people to fit around me, and I have yet to meet anyone who is like me. In fact, some of my best friends and I have only one or two things in common, but our differences is what we learn to appreciate in each other. What I have found is that the Lord does provide what we need, but not always the way we want it. I am like you. I don't like religious organizations for the most part, including churches, but I do go to one, because the Lord led me to go. I found that He had provided what I need there and I am in service there as He wanted me to be. In my church, there are no other homeschoolers--yet! We are an oddity in many other ways also. However, there is a great deal of love. My daughter adopted an 90-year-old man to be her great grandfather and she would never have had the opportunity to know him and share her love of fishing with him, if we had not gone to church. I have found that if you seek the Lord's will in your life and you follow where the Lord is leading you, you will receive what He has prepared for you and be at peace.
I totally don't fit in ANYWHERE! LOL.... My parents divorced when I was young and my Dad remarried. I lived with them....but I still am not part of that family. I'm the only "christian". I'm a "christian" but I don't go to church. I believe it all, but disagree with the "big church" model (like shoveling tons of money into a building, a parking lot, etc so much so that there is little left to care for the widows and orphans). ALL of my homeschooling friends are "big church" people. And they talk about their church all the time. I love them dearly, but, yes, it makes me feel like I don't fit in. We just started a new co-op, and even though I'm liking it better as we've gotten into full swing...I'm still not really "fitting in". We loosely belong to a secular co-op - and I REALLY don't fit in there! LOL So, yes, I get you. I've always chalked it down to heaven is my real home so I'm not really going to feel like I belong anywhere until I get THERE. You fit in here as far as I can tell, we are kind of a motley crew of misfits. Maybe we should change the name from Homeschoolspot to Island of the Misfit Homeschoolers? ((((BIG HUG))))
Well, I am a church goer with no tats...guess I am the boring one! LOL. I always wanted a tat though, does that count??? I did go through a goth phase....am in yet? You see, we all can feel like we are on the outside..lol. I know I have had my share of feeling like an outsider and it does wear on you. Hang in there...you are different because there is only one of you.
_____________________ What do you want to fit into exactly? _____________________ Hang in there...you are different because there is only one of you. _____________________ So, yes, I get you. I've always chalked it down to heaven is my real home so I'm not really going to feel like I belong anywhere until I get THERE. _____________________ Fantastic quotes, gals! I'm so peculiar that even peculiar people think I'm peculiar! This reminds me of a children's song: "A plump little robin hopped down from a tree To hunt for a worm which he happened to see. A frisky young chicken came scampering by, And gazed at the robin with wondering eye. 'Can you sing?' asked the robin, and the chicken said, 'No,' But asked in his turn if the robin could crow! So the bird sought a tree and the chicken a wall, AND EACH THOUGHT THE OTHER KNEW NOTHING AT ALL!"
I can totally relate. We go to church sometime, but I don't feel comfortable having it part of my curriculum. This makes finding curriculum hard. The way I am different is. i have 5 kids. I have 2 in school and the rest are home with me. There ages are 2, 5 and 11. I always feel like i am leading a double life. i am the PTA president in one life and the Homeschool mom in the other. I also do daycare in my home, as if the other stuff is not enough. :shock: My dh has three tatoo. They are not for me, but I like admiring other peoples'. robin
Who does? Honestly, i dont know many people who really feel like they belong in everything they do. I have no tats, am a church goer, and at times feel like i dont belong. In my hs group, on here once in a while, and at church on occasion, in my own family all the time, so i think this is very normal. I also think it is normal to believe that it is not normal. We all feel like we dont belong, but everyone else does. I think personally it is abnormal to feel like you belong in everything you do. so, in reply, join the club, as you can see from your replies, you are not alone. So now you belong to a club of hs who dont feel like they really belong, so now you belong! yay!
Hey reading all of this you all sound like the people who go to my church! Seriously if you every come visit me check it out just for fun! We have people there with tatoos and peircings, and colorful hair, even our kids pastor colors his hair from time to time for fun.... we believe God looks at the inside, and most folks consider us a family church cause we make everyone feel at home. Not trying to be pushy just wanted you to know that God loves you just the way you are! and that you are welcome at my church!
I don't believe in God, I have been homeschooling for 8 years now, I have 8 tattoo's ( 7 are from a mural of the universe on my right leg, one over my heart also)... with more to come, I have a nose ring ( 7 years now), I had electric blue hair up until 3 years ago, I listen to punk rock music, I'm NOT part of a homeschooling group ( just haven't found the right one since moving to Vegas 3+ years ago) I have 2 girlfriends I hang out with ( mostly one though, the other works) because I'm picky about people, I have been apart of this board for over 4 years now ( I was a member when it was ABC Teach also). In all the years on this board no one really cared that I was not christian and answered stuff in the christian forums or otherwise... and I don't care that they give me advice with a christian touch to it when I ask for help about something. Who cares about fitting in..I don't , never have. I like that I don't fit into a mold. I'm like a crazy quilt, made of whatever is on hand, experiences shape me.
