Is he circumsized? The reason I ask is my boys are not. My oldest has an extra long foreskin that is unusually tight and still not retractable. The dr said that when he is a teen we will need to put a small snip in it so that when he has sex for the first time it doesn't tear as it retracts. So bleeding could be from that. It could be from UTI. It very well could be from damage done from being kicked there. I know of one of my daycare boys that got canned so bad he was bleeding. the only way to know is to have a dr check him out. TO add my own teen story...I had hickies etc long before I lost my virginity. I would kiss/neck with boyfriends but not go all the way for a couple years before I lost my virginity. I would have waited even longer, but it was taken by force. My parents were and still are the type to be very judgemental about it. TO this day my mom still accuses me of sleeping with every man I meet. Here I am 30 with my mom still calling me a slut because I lost my viriginity at 16. She doesn't know the truth of where my youngest 2 children came from, I have given up talking to her about it because she formed an opinion in her head of what I was like sexually. When I was 16 and she found out I was no longer a virgin she took me to a dr for BC and told him I was a slut sleeping around. SHe refused to listen that I was not a virgin anymore because I was raped. SHe still doesn't listen. Anyway the point of my story is that he may or may not still be a virgin but how you apporach it and judge him about it will determine alot about your future relationship with your son. IF you come across as crazy mom flying off the handle because you *think* he had sex based on a hicky he may never open up to you ever! It will not change what he has done or not done already. BEfore jumping to conclusions take him to the dr to determine what caused the bleeding. Tell him you understand he may not want to talk to his mother about whether or not he has had sex. After all I don't know many boys who come home and say "hey guess what I did today mom, I had sex". It's embarassing enough for a teen boy to talk to his mom about sex let alone tell her if he is no longer a virgin if he knows how she will react to him. YOu have proven how you will by assuming he is no longer one based on a hicky for pete's sake. Tell him your concerns specifically for him having sex now, std's and pregnancy etc. LEave out the purity part for that conversation. IF he is already having sex he will continue regardless of whether you think premarital sex is okay or not. Sorry to write a novel about it. I just know what it is like to have a mother that assumes the worst in you and paints you that way forever. It made an already strained relationship crumble entirely. If not for me having my kids and wanting them to know their grandma there would be ZERO contact with her to this day as a result of her attitude towards me and sex. I moved away fro home as soon as I was done school to get away fro her judgements.
We all know where this is going-- even if he didnt have intercourse with her - it is coming if he is getting hickies from her. It is hard but he needs to know that she is someone's wife. Maybe his, maybe not! AND he is someone's husband and I dont think his future wife is going to be too happy about her putting hickies on him! Point is- if he is not - he will be soon. Pull back the reins gently but firmly- dont accuse him. But dont give him alot of freedom and opportunity either. The hickies are in my view just as much as a problem as the act itself. AND there is no way a buddy did that too him. That is the oldest line in the book- I bet he said they pinched his neck and twisted! :roll: Yeah- heard that one before. This is a very serious thing and I pray God gives you the wisdom and strength to deal with it properly. As far as the blood, it would not be from intercourse, but could be from UTI, or being kicked in the groin.
