Ya'll are scaring me. Our dd will be 13 in just a couple of weeks . She doesn't want to turn 13, says that she will still be a little girl who plays with her dolls and her toys. Our ds is just 10 (will be 11 in a couple of months). He is very immature for his age still looks and acts like an 8 year old. Just hearing all the things that ya'll have talked about makes my heartache. For all of you going through the terrible things that you have to indure everyday. God Blesses a mom of a teenager. My dh has put his foot down. He has taken and sat both of them down and spoke very loving, but made himself very very clear that he will not have them talking back to us at any time, no attitudes, nor no slamming doors. He also told them that whenever they thought they could make it out on their own then they could leave. Did you know that if you wanted to you could put your children up for adoption at any time. My dh has also made this known to our children, of course we wouldn't do that but it makes a nice threat. My dh teaches middle school and high school so he is ready for anything. I can only pray that our dd will not be to bad of a teenager.
No offense, but I would NEVER threaten my kids with being put up for adoption! Where's the love in that? Though times are hard when going through some of the things that happen, we tell our kids, "We don't like what you're doing or how you're acting, but we love you and will support you in good choices, and will be here for you in bad times." It seems like an empty place would be formed if you threaten to adopt them out, and they may resent that later. Do THEY know you would never really adopt them out? I hope so!
I don't believe you should ever threaten ANYTHING that you aren't willing to follow through on. Even "If you don't stop that, we're leaving!" shouldn't be said unless you mean it.
But I have a feeling that was said in a joking way. I've also threatened to "throw you in the trash can!!!" You don't say it as a threat, but in a very light, fun way. Often humor can break up a tense situation.
Vicky, I have heard of that. Have you ever threatened them with that? That would get their attention for sure.
sympathetic It is nice to know I am not the only one dealing with hormones! The difference is my dd is 10 years old. She is 10 trapped in a 13 year old body. She is angry all the time. My dh tells her, her mouth runs like diarrhea. She blames everyone and everybody else for her attittude. Last week, during weekly chores, she explained if I wanted the house perfectly clean, I need to clean it myself. We have spanked her, made her write verses, made her pray, given her extra chores, and now we are seperating her from everyone else until she acts better when she spouts off. We are also at our witts end. I don't want her to carry this attittude to adult hood. blessings, melanee
My house is hormone city!!! :shock: Between my being pregnant, my dd turning 12 and two 13 yr old ds it can get pretty crazy around here. Sometimes I throw my hands up to God and ask if He is sure I can handle all this??? I take the silence as a yes...
Melanee, could she be starting periods? Maybe she has feelings she can't articulate, just like we grown girls do each month!! I do like the diarrhea comment
I've also been told that some girls go through PMS-type symptoms monthly, starting about a year or so BEFORE the onset of their period. I even asked Rachael's doctor about it once on her regular check-up, because she'd have these big mood swings. Fine one minute and then bawling her eyes out the next, and she told me it was "too early" for that. I still wonder.....
Well, doctors have to remember that there is not a "set age" for every girl. My sister did not start her periods until she was 13. I started when I was 10. It sucked big time. Of course they were not full blown, they would be like every 3 months or so but still enough to cause hormone hell as my dad called it.
Jackie~ Who am I to question a doctor? Oh, that's right. I'm a mother of a girl around the same age as your daughter, right? (Ashley was 11 in November). Anyway, your doctor is wrong! Ashley's been dealing with the mood-swings for several months now- exactly like you described- happy one minute and then bawling the next (and, we're talking, this isn't an emotional child!) Aaahhh!!!!! Anyway, I've been telling her that I knew the period was coming soon........sure enough, 1/2 way through our Florida vacation, Ashley and I both got our period! Rachel's turn is coming, I'm sure! Heidi
Heidi you made me laugh! I try not to leave the house that week and here you were in Florida!! How is Ashley doing?
They say that moms and daughters have periods together all the time. There cycle is in sync. Boy oh boy, I can not wait. :? My daughter and I are moody without periods. Should be fun!!! But at least I have a few years to go.
Oh, that's a terrible thought!!! Both of us at the same time!!! Actually, I'm looking forward to menopause. On the other hand, I've been informed by Phillip's Sunday School teacher that Phillip is praying faithfully for a baby brother. We discussed that this just "ain't gonna happen", and he just looks up at me and replies, "But I'm praying about that....." Part of it is, he wants a brother to share a room with, partly so he can have a bunk bed. He sees the girls sharing, and thinks it's cool. He's too young to realize that a brother 6-7 years younger is just not what he thinks! Rachael won't be 11 until June; her cousin, one month younger, started last year! I am hoping to take her a a mother-daughter weekend this spring and talk things over with her.
Becky~ I'm glad you got a laugh out of it! Do you know I don't think that I've been on a vacation since I've been married that I wasn't having my period?! It's awful, but I'm so used to it now that I can't imagine going on a vacation without it! Jackie~ I've always been very open with Ashley, so I never had to "sit down" and have the "period chat" with her. She's just always known. So, she wasn't really surprised when it happened, and she dealt with it quite well. Good luck! Heidi
Oh Heidi, poor Ashley. I know Elle is "ready" soon too. She will be 12 in July. My doctor said that daughters take after their mothers, well that hasnt exactly been my experience with my dd's but I thought I would pass that info on. I also heard that women that live together some how sync their cycles together. That happened before I was married and lived with a girlfriend. I would say by the sixth month of us living together we were in sync. You know I have four daughters!!! Boy this should get interesting! LOL
Crystal~ I love you girl! But, I would NOT want to be at your house the week before all 5 of you (or possibly 6, depending on this new baby) get your period! Poor Rod!!!!! Heidi
I know Heidi - thats when I'll come to your house and leave the girls with Rod!! LOL BTW, LOVE the picture with your posts!!!
