Just wondering what you guys think about timeouts? When they are hurting another child. Also wondering what everyone would do if all their child only wanted to eat junk food? and would not eat a healthy meal. This was the topic that was being talked about on the unschool forum I talked about in another thread and I was just wondering what your guys oppions were. Ok for my oppion I do believe that for some children timeouts work and for others they do not. I believe everyone needs to learn how to take a timeout now and then when they are very upset. I believe there are times when we need to collect our thought before we carry on a converstion, I think at times we say things or do things out of anger and timeouts can help us gain a little control. Ok on junk food. I think that children and adult should eat a varity of foods. I think when all we eat is junk food we are not doing our bodies any good. Our bodies need things to keep them healthy and junk food a lone can not provide us with these things. Ok do not unlease the dogs! LOL
Well, I can't unleash my dog because I agree with what you said. Since I agree, I of course, think you sound very logical and not real extreme. So, I am curious....what dogs were unleashed on the other website. lol. Oh...my would not only eat junk food...wouldn't happen. The kid would starve first. LOL. Time-outs: approiate for certain things, certain kids at certain times. lol.
WOW. :shock: THAT is what they unleashed the dogs on you for?? Goodness sakes alive. I agree. Timeouts work for some, and not for others, and everyone should know how to take one when needed. (For my oldest, timeouts only work if they involve physical labor... which isn't really a timeout in my book. For my middle, it's the only thing that DOES work. For my youngest, I'd have to sit on him myself for the entire time, and then he'd just run away and do it again. LOL) And you're right about junk food as well. The way we solved the problem of mine (especially my middle one) only wanting junk food was to STOP keeping it in the house at all. We did that for almost a year, and now we occasionally get something as a sweet treat at the store to eat RIGHT THEN (or that night after dinner). We dont' keep a stock of it at all. I understand some of the unschooling methods about children and food. I don't force my children to the table at dinner time; it only creates a stressful atmosphere, and they don't eat in the end anyway. But I put up the food when we're done, and if they want to eat then they can get it themselves later. They can fix what we had for dinner, or any of the other healthy meal-snack choices I have available - but they don't have free reign entirely. (Meaning, they can't go eat something I plan for a meal later that week. They can't eat an entire bag of chips and nothing else. Usually what they eat is something leftover from earlier in the week, which is fine by me.) Anyway. I totally agree with you. *hugs*
They wanted to know if my husband put me in timeout and if I would like it. When it came to junk food they said my oppion was interesting and then they stated that they do not limit what their children eat and they would make the right choices in time. I just felt like they did not like my oppion. The person that started the thread thanked everyone and didn't think anyone was wrong. So that was good.
This creeps me out. Who thinks like this?? A husband and wife relationship is different than a parent and child relationship. They do not have the same rules, understandings or boundaries. As for the junk food thing, I agree with Ava, my kids would be pretty hungry if they decided to only eat junk food!
You're a grown woman! [speaking of the time out thing] That's ridiculous. Some people (unschoolers, other homeschoolers, public schoolers, and just people in general) just don't seem to understand that children DO require TRAINING. "Eventually they'll make the right decisions" is ridiculous if they've never been shown, or taught, to do so. I'd really not rather wait for a heart attack to change my 50-year-old child's mind to eat properly. :roll: *sigh*
We put children in time outs to teach them how to calm themselves. We as adults already have learned that skill, therefore we do not need people to put us in time outs. If we need to be corrected then yes, someone DOES put us in time out.. they call it JAIL. Bamb!
My kids get time outs so that I can calm down! LOL As for food, I could not agree with you more!!! I LOVE that my kids beg for asparagus! And that when given a choice between chips or carrots they will 9 times out of 10 choose the carrots! SCARY! But reality is with food is they eat what they see us eat! If we eat poorly, they eat poorly. I'm learning this so much now...my major vice is Coca Cola...my eldest now asks every day if she can have Coke. She and I had a big talk the other day and I told her that Mommy has a problem with Coca Cola and that I don't want her too...I'm praying for the strength to not buy it and only getting it when we go out or something...seriously...its an addiction like some folks are addicted to alcohol or cigarettes, etc. I'm NOT joking. BUT...that was all my parents drank growing up, so I know where I got it from! Anyway...no dogs here...I think you're right on the money!!!
I tell the kids all the time I need a mommy time out from them. Donald is a very picky eater, and I won't let him eat just junk. It was different some when he was on Chemo treatments............. when we felt victorious just to get him to eat french fries. But after that we really started trying to get him to eat more that his white foods (chicken nuggets, eggo waffles, instant potatoes and life cereal) he eats a lot of protien foods like peanutbutter and meat and cheese.
I had to laugh one day when I found Joyce attempting to put my 1 yr old dgd in a time-out! The child was actually sitting there, too! Poor Joyce was trying so hard not to laugh out loud. With the older one they work really well. My vice is Pepsi! I rarely all Joyce to drink it but I had to laugh last night when out of the blue she popped out with "I want some pepsi sooo bad"! We were rarely allowed to drink it growing up. My mom would buy a six pack once a week and we were allowed one soda. I have a df I grew up with and she is now hooked to and she said maybe it's because we weren't allowed much! Amy, you know we love ya' girl!!
Gee, can't imagine going off on someone for that! Sounds like they were nothing but bfh's! Sorry that happened to you. (((( )))) I agree with what you said. My kids did not have sugar sweetened cereal until they were about 4 years old at an aunt's house. We always gave them Cheerios, Rice Chex, Shredded Wheat, etc.
Sounds like you visited a board of woment intent on raising self indulgent spoiled children. hey...are they possibly part of the church of Oprah? Maybe they are all just trying to find themsevles and keep their inner light alive or whatever garbage is being taught at the moment.
WHAT??? Well, I can tell who runs their homes then! :shock: Unreal what some people do, or don't do. Saying "they will make the rights choices in time" is an excuse for lazy parenting. Um...NO they will not make the right choices later on if they are not being taught how to now...duh! :roll: (((HUG)))
Amy I wanna know where this board is. I'd like to go over there and have some fun. See I need to stop! That is the cajun in me coming out! I agree with everything you said in your first post. Grownups and children all need to calm down from time to time. It is our job as parents to teach our children those skills. I would never allow my kid to eat only junk. They would starve before that would happen. They eat what I cook or they don't eat. We all sit down at the table together and have our dinner most every night. There are times when dh and I eat later but we mostly always eat together. My kids are not allowed to eat anywhere but the table unless we are picknicking outside. Watch out the kids of those "parents" on the other board are gonna be on Super Nanny one day real soon. And then one day our prisons will be full of them.
I will post the site if you guys really want it. I wanted to post back to them, but my momma taught me if I don't have anything nice to say not to say anything at all. So I told them I was sorry I posted and left it at that. I started to post something and then earsed it because I knew they would come back at me and I didn't feel it was worth it. I guess I am just too nice.
