Are all MIL's numb or am I the lucky one :roll: Mine called this morning (I had an idea that she would becuase it was Noah's birthday) and I was the lucky recipient to answer the phone (what a treat that was - sarcasm intended). She talked like nothing had happened (I can't say that I was the same way though). I wasn't long passing the phone on to someone else... I'm slowly moving on and trying not to allow her to control me by harboring hard feelings (more like hatred) for her, but I can see it's going to be a daily process. I was doing fine until she called and it all stirred up again. She insists on taking Noah to the movies for his birthday... I don't know what to do - I would rather she didn't but I don't have the support (from my husband) to say no and I don't want to end up in a long twisted argument over it. I did tell my husband that if she did take him, he would have to meet her somewhere that as long as I live here she isn't welcome here. The saga continues...
My MIL thinks I am the best thing since sliced bread, but I have my problems with her. She simply doesnt have very high moral standards IMHO and she does not discipline my children the way she should. She will yell and argue with my 3 yo wondering why he cant stand to be around her-- she fights constantly with him like she is 3. I have talked with her and it does NO GOOD DH has too NO GOOD EITHER. She has alot more issues than this but I wont get into here, suffice to say I think she has borderline personality disorder, and it sounds like your mil does too! Read up on it-- it is not an excuse for her to behave that way but it may give you and dh the peace of mind that you should very much be limiting your childrens time with her. I had to cut her off with watching our children which is hard b/c sometimes I really need her but I just chose not to go to whatever or I have to pay my baby sitter. I really think you should be very careful in any time your kids spend with her , but also never say anything bad about her to your children. It will just make you look like the bad guy.
Brenda, You are in my thoughts and prayers. It is so difficult when you have a family member who insists of making your world miserable, it can consume you. I pray for peace and happiness for you and yours. Blessings. Staci
I am very blessed with a good MIL. She is a very sweet person. She wasn't crazy about me homeschooling Vicki at first but she has saw I don't keep her home 24/7. i told her the other day I was going to have to slow down some of Vicki's activities. She agreed. My MIL is one person I could trust with Vicki. That is Vicki's place of refuge so to speak. When she needs quiet time and time to just be calm she goes to Grandmas. She is very blessed and I do mean blessed with a good Grandma. Your stories make me thankful. Praying for all of you.
