I just read through all the millions of responses here.. I really enjoyed reading them.. and the whole time I contemplated putting my 2 cents in.. and to prepare myself for the tomatos that I'm sure could follow. I have decided to spill it so here it goes:
We are not strong Christians in many people's eyes. Hubby and I both grew up in a variety of Churches. From that hubby got totally lost, and has no clue what to believe in. I took a little from this Church and a little from that Church and combined them to form my own beliefs. I don't believe in everything I read.. as in there are things in the Bible I don't believe in. I thought my mother would have a heartattack.. litterally!! when I confessed to her when I was about 26 that I didn't believe in the Virgin Birth. Do I believe that Jesus is God's son.. yes, do I believe that he is his only son?? NO. My children were put here the same way I feel Jesus was.. they were chosen by God to be put in my family. I know many of you are probably thinking I am condemned to Hell for thinking this way, but I have done so much soul searching and always come out feeling the same. I don't believe that God judges you by how much you go to Church or by how much you worship. I feel that he watches for your good deeds and therefore in my household we try to be good people. This is one belief that I am thankful that I share with my hubby.
I had my first son out of wedlock.. I had moved in with his father at 17, a junior in highschool. The only 2 good things that man did for me was make me stay in school, and give me a beautiful son. He also did the best thing for my son by leaving his life before he could permantly damage him, although I think the toll had already been paid.
My husband was a one night stand that went slightly wrong..lol. I was fresh out of the relationship with my ex (whom I never married), and Adam and I had been friends for 11 years so he wasn't a complete stranger or anything, but it still was our first date, and we both were really on the rebound. I still remember going to work the next day and talking to my friend there and crying because I was a slut. Adam came into my store the next day and we have been side by side ever since. We were married 8 months after our first date at a JP and I wore black
I wouldn't change the beginning of our relationship for anything.. it really defines who we are. We are not typical...
Hubby hates sports and beer, neither of us drink and prefer to stay away from those who do.. which in todays society is hard to do. We do just about everything as a family. If we can't take the kids we just don't need to go either. We have started having date night once a month, but if we miss it no big deal.
I don't feel either of us put 100% into our marriage, but we are both 100% committed to it. We love each other for who we are, and we both try our best to lift the other one. I am not the best housewife, and he is definately not the head of our family. He helps with taking care of the kids and the housework, I take care of the money and most of what we are going to do. We make 99% of the major decisions together, unless something needs decided right then and there.. then it is usually me who makes that decision. He is a great provider and makes sure we want for nothing.
My children are all vaccinated, circumcized, and if needed spanked. They are all also loved. They do watch too much tv and eat too many sweets. My oldest was never breastfed, my 2nd was breastfed till 5 months when I was told to stop for the safety of my unborn baby and my uterus (I had just had a c-section) and my 3rd was breastfed till 6 months, when he weaned himself. I usually use cloth diapers, but have a stash of huggies always! I allow my son to wear funny shirts.. my favorite 2 are "Can I trade my sister" and "I'm the good kid, my sister's the brat", he also wears shirts with dragons and cars and 4 wheelers on them. I don't feel that clothing makes the person, but I also don't agree with the way most are dressing these days.
I will stop now... sorry this was so long, but I was on a roll.. I will hold up my shower curtain now so the tomatoes don't stain my hair..lol
