First of all I want to give you a ((((BIG HUG)))). I have walked in your shoes and still do at times. My son (15) is dx with Bipolar I. First dx was ODD, then depression, then ADHD. Another good book is the Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene. We used this book for years, no it didn't solve our problems but helped us through some of our days. My story is long so I will not share it today, but if you want to hear it just let me know!! I just wanted to give you my support and let you know if you need to talk feel free to pm me. One thing we had to learn was to live for the moment, not worry about what will happen in the next moment because you can't control it. I know I worried about what my son would do next or how he would react to this or that. And believe me I have tried all there is in discipline. And for some children it just doesn't work, they don't care or feel so bad and don't understand why they are this way. A lot of the things you mentioned remind me of my son, except he also suffered from depression with suicide threats. ( he had a plan). Now that my son is medicated life is a lot better but we still have our issues and probably always will. Because he is Bipolar and it doesn't go away. I know he is because the meds help him. Not saying that your child should be medicated, this a a choice that only you can make and it took us years to make this choice for son. For us it was our last choice and I hate my child being on meds ( highly medicated). But it came to a point were nothing else was working so we gave it a try and life is different. ( other things happened to lead to this as well) We are now working on finding the lowest dose that helps our son. Well I could go on and on. My suggestion is to read all you can and if need be seek help. Start with your ped doctor and go from there. And let your child know no matter what you love him!!! (((((BIG HUGS)))) Our road is long but I will cont. to walk it because it is the life God gave me!!
