Gosh - I have no suggestions, but I am sure you will make the right decision. It's so hard to see kids in need.
My thought is that the more prepared you seem, the more likely they are to "think favorably" of you! If you have gone through the work of getting things ready, they may feel you really ARE serious about this! Best wishes in this! PLEASE keep us posted!
Well I got a reply from the social worker. She said the room does not have to be ready, but we need to be able to show the person doing the study where the beds will be and where the childrens stuff will be stored. So it makes me think maybe I should just have the room ready, because right now the room we will be using is my crowded, untidy classroom. lol
From what I've heard, depending on the case worker of course, the tidier the house the better off you'll be "point" wise. They really like seeing the effort put into it that you have gone "the extra mile" to prepare and plan for the children! So I'd definitely have the room ready and the house as tidy as possible!
Well we would have the classroom cleaned up, just not *ready*, but I called my dh and he told me if I wanted to get the room ready,(which will intel a LOT of work, our house is not the biggest in the world lol) that he would help me. We just really hate to go through all this and then nothing happens. But I do see you point about the *points* and I want to do all I can. I was even on craigslist last night, and found two twin bunk beds. My dh should be picking them up today or tomorrow. But I told him not to tell his parents, because I dont want them fussing because we dont actually *know* anything yet.
Hi Ladies, Heres an update... We got the room ready for the boys. Moved ALL the calssroom stuff to the rec room and turned that into the classroom. BIG chore. lol I got on craigslist and found 2 twin bunk bed. Solid wood. $50.00 They are great. All we needed was the mattresses. So we shopped and got the best deal we could find. My sil let us use a dresser and chest of drawers she wasnt using. Didnt have room for the dresser, but we are using the chest. Found a humpty dumpty lamp from my oldest sons room and we have a cute room. The curtains I left because they were light blue and I was going with a blue theme. My kids havent slept in their room since we finished it I think lol. Okay, room got finished. Case worker came for first visit last monday. It went great. She was so nice. Was not one of those over the top people. Very nice. * on a side note, the toilet handle broke a few days before she was to come and I had been on my dh about fixing it. He did fix it but made the reply" Its not like shes going to go into the bathroom to flush the toilet" Well she did exactly that! She just had to make sure the toilet flushed. I thought it was so funny.:lol: But she wasnt looking in closets or drawers. Just went and looked at every room. Asked lots of questions. A lot of them were in the papers we already had filled out. Mayby they wanted to see if we would give they same answer twice. idk. And yes, she did want to see the room where the boys would be sleeping. So Im glad we did it. Yesterday she came for her second and last visit. The lady from dfcs had told me I wouldnt have to get med. exams for my kids again. But then the case worker called after her first visit and said we would have to redo them and they needed immunization records. Well we decided a while back that we would stop giving them to our children. So I went to the doc and he wrote me a letter stating why we did this and they were not up to date. I gave it to the case worker, who did not bat an eye. So I asked if she thought it would be a problem. She said she could not honestly tell me. So I am wondering about that. She said she was done with our homestudy when she left and that she would be recommending us as an adoptive family. And would be email the report in no later that Monday. So now Im waiting to see what happens. I am doing a lot of praying. I had nursery today at church, so I didnt get to really see the boys. The foster family wont let them come to the nursery because of not being able to answer for bumps or bruises to the case worker. Long story. But before they left with them, my dh brought the youngest one to me so I could say bye. I took him from my dh and said "kiss" thats what he says when he wants a kiss. He looked at me and said" Ummmmm No!!" then grinned from ear to ear. lol He brightens the moment when he smiles. Well thanks for reading my ramblings. Dont remember who said they were getting a homestudy soon when I wrote last, but I hope all is going well for you. Forgot to add. We had to sign confidentiality papers, so now I dont feel I can say much about whats going on with the boys. But the process did get delayed the other day. Prayers are appreciated.
I am so excited for you and your family. Don't get discouraged over delays. It took us four years to get to adopt Crystal. She has been with us since she was three, but she was seven when her adoption was final. It took two years with Emily, a year and a half with Bill, and about six months with Bobby. Best of luck to you all. Beth
