Please don't think less of me - prayer request

Amie please be careful with your health! Don't do something that may harm you!!

 

Do you have a family planning type place close? I know here they have them. Also.. can't your dr bill you for it? I don't know why they would say that with your health history they may not install it. It is just a piece of plastic with some copper coils on it.. and I know it sounds big.. but it's really a tiny tiny thing. You know the little red tube on the WD40 bottle? Well it goes in in a "straw" skinnier than that!

I don't mean to come off as being a jerk, just trying to help you.. see I have my own monthly crisis' quite often.. but sadly for me it's the other way around.. we are trying to have another baby, did everything by the book for 9 months. We just gave up and told God it was his to give, not ours to ask for 3 months ago. We also have a date set next April for hubby's vasectomy. I wanted to be pregnant again before that, but I don't think it will happen. We had our plans laid out before we got married, 4 kids but an age limit of 32 which ever came first was our cut off, but we really longed for 4 kids. (He also knew that I had some fertility problems and that kids may not have even been an option besides the one I brought into the marriage.) Hubby and I were just talking this morning of moving his big V to sometime within the next month because it's too much to go through.

 

Amie, please make sure you are not messing around with your health. Be careful. I guess I don't have to tell you that but I would hate for something to happen to you.

Sommer...my age limit is 35. I don't hope to be pregnant before than. lol. If we won a million dollars from McDonald's monopoly I would though. LOL. However, I think you have to eat at McD's to win. LOL.

 

Praying for you that you and your dh will come up with a perfect solution for both of you!! May the Lord's guidance be with the both of you!:angel:

 

I have to agree with the others--make sure your doctor knows your full history before you get one. If there is a health reason she will not install it, then don't get one!

 

Apparently my husband has already passed his age limit on more kids. He always tells me no. My arguement is that I am only 31!! His arguement is that he is already 38.

 

well if they are worried about health things, then there has to be other ways to do this and not have to go through this month after month, you will have a ulcer as big as the MISSISSIPPI worry if you are pg every month.. I couldn't do it every month.. I would go someone where for help and soon.

 

I know I said I wouldn't comment here again, but I just started reading Brooke Shield's book, Down Came the Rain. She put herself through hell to get pregnant, lost it, went through even more to get pregnant, then suffered all that post partum horror. It's a compelling read. They get deep into all the procedures and horrible things that happened to her just as the baby was born. Dollar Tree has it, as well as the library.

 

Dollar Tree has it? Well I am certianly going to have to check our store. I know I read she went through hell.

 

Yep- in the book aisle. They have a surprising variety of books there, I think.

 

I have found that women who have more medical interventions during delivery, even if they are life saving and necessary, have higher instances of PPD. It's interesting to me.

I might be inclined to read her book. I'm so pleased that she had the guts to put that out there for the world to see.

 

I had 48 hours of intensely horrible feelings when Samantha was about 2 weeks old. I had never felt that way before and have never felt that way again. I truly feel for people who have to go through that. 48 hours was bad enough.

 

I had a flash...a flash....of something after my first. didn't last long. I wasn't so much depressed as disconnected. I actually allowed my mom to talk my 2 week old baby home with her overnight. I have only told one other person that. I was just tired...I wasn't angry....I didn't feel like I was going to hurt her or loose it...just disconnected. I did call and beg my mom to bring her back...my mom lives over an hour away. Yep...had a flash of nuts there....I mean who does that? My mom didn't even think it was weird...wow.

 

Wow...I'm behind on my spot visiting and this thread was nuts!!...I just had to add I TOTALLY understand the not wanting any more tiny monsters. I would LOVE to have 2 more at least, but I almost died while pregnant this last time so physically the thought of it makes ME curl up the fetal and cry. My husband has decided after christmas he will join the, "Seedless Grapes" club and get the ol' snippy snippy. I love you girls! You ALL always uplift my spirits

 

I about fell outta my chair laughing at this one!:lol:

 

I could have written some of these pages in this book. Some of what she says in there I thought or said nearly word for word. I didn't have a nanny or a husband to take care of my baby, though. I think I suffered two years before I sought help with the depression. Just like her, my husband would question why I'm not happy, as though it was my own fault I felt that way. Then he'd start in with those 'What kind of mother are you?' statements. And just like her I was foolish enough to stop my depression medicine. However, a goofy doctor said it would be okay to go cold turkey. It was NOT okay to do it like that. I might try to write to her after I finish this book, because there are so many parallels between what she suffered and what I suffered.

 

I don't know if that is true or not. I worked in OBYN floor for years and I never seen that. I will have to ask my oldest godfatther who is a baby doctor this one.. I really don't believe it..

 

After I posted that, I polled one of my mom's groups to see if it was just my imagination. They are all natural ladies. Everyone of them agreed with my observations. This is not scientific study, mind you. But I think I might have something to do with a couple of things:

I really don't know too many women who intentionally set out to include medical interventions in their births (even epidurals). So the women I know who have had interventions have done so under duress and against their original plan. This was either because of truly medical issues going on, or just a pushy doctor (which sadly, happens more often than not).

So, I think that IN MY EXPERIENCE only, this is true. But not because of the intervention itself, but because of the circumstances surrounding it.

You also have to keep in mind that women who plan to have natural births, and end up not (for whatever reason) are probably also the women who wouldn't go to a doctor for PPD, but would instead use natural remedies. In other words, the OB may never know of the mother's PPD if she's a natural health seeker. Again, this only applies to a very specific group of people. One that I happen to be included in...lol.

 

yes, some doctors are pushy, but Like I said I worked on the obgyn floor for many years and you need to be with some ladies...

 

I don't think a doctor (or nurse) ever has the right to be pushy. Entirely too many well informed women are trampled on by power hungry birth nazis. Which is exactly why I believe that birthing should be turned back over to midwives (barring major health concerns, obviously), where it belongs.

Please don't think that I believe ALL OBs are horrible people or anything. But even some of the nice ones go a little nutty when a women asserts her ability to birth her baby without much help.

So, I respectfully ask that we agree to disagree on this one.