Please don't think less of me - prayer request

My dh feels the need to point out when other women use midwives. He knew I loved the idea but was fearful. LOL. I look up to any woman who can give birth the old fashioned way. I respect any midwife that knows when to call in a doctor because other means are necessary. Calling in a doctor does not mean a midwife is inept or it was a mistake to have one. I just means your midwife's pride is not bigger than her patient's health.

 

Maybe I should have been more clear.. back in the days before it was commonplace for a doctor to be the one to deliver a baby, and even more so before it was common place for an OB to deliver it was much more common for a woman to die while giving birth. I don't know the statistics off hand, but I remember learning them in school.

And just for the record, when I went to nursing school my carreer of choice was to be a L/D nurse, or a midwife, so I took as many courses as I could in those fields... now mind you I have been out of school for 10 years now, so my memory of things isn't the best, but the basics are still in my brain.

 

Wow, this is a HOT thread, Amie!
I had my first in the hospital, my second at home with the midwife. I defenitely liked the home delivery more, ha. Both my kids are wonderful, it's not like the one who was born at home is smarter or brighter or anything. But I defenitely felt myself much better after home delivery. Though my first labor was 7 hours, second -22 hours. And I would even say that second was harder. But I am so grateful I stayed at home and used the help of the midwife and the support of the loved ones.
So, from my personal experience I vote for midwives But again, I know that it is according to people's faith. I do not judge women having deliveries at the hospital for any reason. As long as everybody is happy with the decision made.

 

"I contemplated whether or not to even dignify Tinymom with a response. I sure hope he/she is just a troll. "

There's one in every bunch, eh?

 

I would never think less of you or anyone else for feeling that way!

Reality- we all love our children, that doesn't mean everyone can handle more financially or otherwise.
Reality- you are in your own unique place in life, and that's ok!

I totally understand not being able to take BC because I'm in the same boat, as well as with crazy pd's, and it can be scary! Dh had a vasectomy before we ever met, but sometimes I Still wonder. It can be a rollercoaster!

And for the record, I think becoming pregnant has as much to do with simple biology as with God's will. There is only one conception I can think of that was entirely God's will, and nothing else. I also think God looks down and sees each person's individual position, and I believe that he will take care of you!

Having said that, I hope that everything works out for you to the best possible end!

 

And Ava, this was so beautifully said! And to everyone else.. you guys are the reason I am a hs spot addict!

 

I have to say that I have 3 children and I don't want anymore. Luckily my husband had a vasectomy when our third and last child was 6 weeks old. He was happy to do it and I was thankful. It is much easier for the man than the woman, anyway.

Amie, could you use condoms (hate to use that word) and the foam, until he's ready to make it permanent. The fact that you should control your urges is absolutely ridiculous. Who was it that said that? Anyway, you love your husband and he loves you and love making is a way to express that. I know the two of you will come up with a solution. Maybe after time he will realize it's the best thing for both of you, but until then, if you push him to have it and he does, he may eventually resent you for it and you may have some unnecessary problems to deal with later.

Good luck, girly. I know this is hard for you.

 

Ok, I've had my first reply (beginning of thread, to show you support, Amie!); my second reply (because I am really proud of Ava Rose for defending Amie like that!!!); and now my third reply (because I have finally read all of the other posts (trying to realign my eyes to the text now..lol). I only have a few things to add..

Amie, I am so glad to see that you are still posting! I haven't been here long, and I know that, but I have come to value your thoughts and opinions, and lots of other's here as well. I would be sad if you weren't here posting anymore!!! Hugs!!!!

Oh, and one other thing.. when I am saying that becoming pregnant is as much about biology as God's will, I do not mean to say that each child is not a blessing. I personally feel that my son was a gift from God because if I hadn't been carrying him when I was, I do not believe I would have made it through. I was just trying to say that I only know of one birth that happened entirely because of God's will, without the biology part. I hope everyone understands!

And one more hug for the road, Amie!!!