I have heard this, and several other things on this family... blanket training little tiny children If you don't know what blanket training is, I think you can find it on Google, I have heard she weans here babys early to get pregnant again.. which even as a non-Christian, I don't believe to be Gods will in any way shape or form! The truth is we DON'T know what goes on behind closed doors... I think it would break my heart to know.
I hate to be a spoiler on this topic. Although I'm happy for them and know that every child is a blessing, I think "we'd love to have another" is kind of ridiculous. The problem I have with it is that she takes care of the baby until she has the next one, then she pawns the older child onto his/her "buddy." Its not fair for the older children to be taking care of all the mother's kids. There is no way she can know all her children when she's having another one every 9 months. I'm sure a lot of them get lost in the mix. Sorry.
First of all I want to say you are not spoiling the topic, I feel the same way, there is a mother in our homeschool group that does the same thing as the Druggar do, she has a baby, takes care of the baby for nine months then passes the baby on to the oldest to take care of. First of all I disagree with that, the good Lord gave you the baby not your other child, you wanted it take care of it. Second the older child needs to be a child not a mother. I know my oldest use to play with her dd and she use to say all the time, she hated it so much she couldn't wait till she turned 18 she never gets to do anything with out a baby hanging off her hips and she is only 15 years old. So sad. I don't understand where mothers get off thinking it's ok, to me it's not there children they are just carry it then having someone else raise them. Like Sommer said weaning them so young is wrong too. I dunno I don't agree with it. To me its like she is a machine in a factory trying to out do someone else. If she was a mother to them all I would understand but she isn't she hands them off to a older child to raise so she can go do her job of making another one.
I think they average every 18 months, I have heard she weans at 6 months so she can become pregnant again by the time the baby is 9 months. I agree, it is not the job of older siblings to be raising their little brothers and sisters.
. I don't get how they like having more children for their other children to raise. Sure, in a big family everyone has to pitch in because it's the only way things will get done, but the older kids shouldn't have to buddy up with a sibling and raise them for mom and dad so they can keep the baby factory going. Just my opinion.
There are people here in town that do the "oh, I want another one" when they already have a baby-in-arms. I think a mother is missing so much when she is just concerned about having another. Just nursing one for over a year is so important and is such a wonderful experience for mother and child. I loved taking care of my babies - even when they were two year old babies!
I have to admit.. I'm one of the ones who will constantly has the thought of "I want another one" in my head.. even when I had 2 babies in my arms at the same time!! I have trouble concieving, and this baby will sadly be our last becuase we don't have years to put into trying to make a baby anymore, but I do know the feeling of longing for another baby, even when you have one in your arms. When DD was 8 weeks old, hubby and I decided to let nature take it's course... she took 4 years to concieve, and her older brother had taken 4 1/2 years. We were shocked to get pregnant again when she was just 3 months old, esp since I was nursing and had gone through so much to get pregnant to begin with. We knew that the new baby was wanted, we didn't expect him so soon, but wouldn't have it any other way now. We started trying when he was 1, because we figured it would take a while... it took 22 cycles.
I do believe that you know when you want more and know when you are done. I always knew there was one more child waiting for me to have. After four, my husband was done. I was getting older and agreed that four was enough. I nursed my kids until they were around 2 years old anyway and never got pregnant during that time - even though we never prevented it. I know everyone is different but I still think 18+ is kind of excessive. That's just my opinion.
whatever is said we all have our opinons on this subject I just think it's very selfish of them to keep having babies and passing them on to the older ones to finish raising. Darn it if God told them to keep having them he meet for them to raise them too. I know alot of you think they are great parents but believe me they don't seem that way to me, you have to prove it differently to me, by passing your child down line so you can get your body ready for another is not a good parent. You are the parents, you raise the child till they are 18. I understand the kids have to work to get things done, thats a different story but to raise the babies no way. I really don't want to say what I feel about them because the tomatoes will fly but then again so what it's the truth. If you all sit and look at it. They are Christian people so they don't talk about sex like they like it so by saying they are trying to have another child with Gods help makes them look better then others. In other words the are both Sex Freaks in my books. Thats the only way I can look at it. If they reason the child up themself then I wouldn't believe that way, but weaning baby at nine months to get ready for another is not normal in my books. Its saying I need more sex. I believe in a few years books will be coming out telling the whole truth. The older ones will talk.
I have thought the same exact thing a million times..lol. A few times the thought has crossed my mind.. with all those kids how in the heck to they find time.. or energy for that matter, but then again when you have your older kids raising your younger ones I guess that makes plenty of time and energy.
:lol::lol: O.K..so you just said what I've always thought! Ya know, if they wanna get their grove on that's fine. But seriously 18 kids cannot be healthy on the body or the family.
I don't know.I consider any amount of children a blessing,but I suspect they ttc,like for a novelty,and thats kind-of odd.I don't approve of the "fishbowl" their kids are growing up in either.How can kids be kids with a camera following about?
If it's true, I do think it's weird to wean a child at 6 months just to be able to conceive again quickly (in their circumstances). I also don't go for blanket training (or just about anything else the Ezzo's promote), but I do know people that those things work for. Me... I very much believe in attachment parenting. I do struggle some with the idea that the older kids have so much responsibility to the younger ones. I'm all for teaching responsibility and let my older ones help out with my younger ones. But they are not fully responsible for my younger ones. I am. As far as being freaks... I guess they really love each other! I do think there has to be some definite trying to conceive with the way their children are spaced. I still respect the Duggars and their right to have as many children as they want.
We watched the episode today, of the 18th baby being born... What my DH pointed out was this... If they have 18 kids, why do they need to go shopping for baby gear???? GREAT question! hahaha!
Well, if you look at some of the things they use for those kids on some of those episodes, it looks like the went to a '80s retrosale. Also, things DO wear out... With just a 3 and 4 year old I have to replace the crib, the carseat, swing and several other things... some of which I sold, but most of which was outdated or worn out.
Yea, it was a MAN-servation... I told him, UH... the last baby is STILL using the other car seat, goofy!
