You guys realy HAVE been a big help!!! And the tomatoes have been directed at my DH, rather than lme, and I'm throwing them right along with you, lol! I'm glad your dhs consider it a non-issue, too. We got in late last night, and I did read him one of the responses about a husband. I think he's really beginning to realize that no, not "all guys" think about this! And I DID ask him WHAT guys did he talk with.... Turned out, this was back 20 or more years ago!!! :roll: And I KNOW the type of guys he hung out with then! So I think I'm beginning to get through to him that it's a non-issue. Vantage, it's that self-conciousness that I'm concerned about, too. Poor thing! Here she is, 12 years old, starting for the first time on Sunday, and scheduled to go on a Youth Conference this weekend with her youth group (where there's a water park, no less!) She was panicked!!! I reassured her that it'd stop before Friday. We also talked about "what if" it were to start at camp, or at Grandma's house. I told her the nurse at camps ALWAYS kept supplies "just in case", and if she was worried, she could take some with her in her suitcase. And Grandma! "I don't want a big deal made of it!!!" I told her that if she was at Grandma's house, all she had to do was to tell Grandma, and she would understand because she's "been there, done that", and would take her to the store to pick up what was needed, and there's be no reason to say a word to Grandpa. I also told her that if something should happen when I was gone somewhere, her dad WAS capable of dealing with it, too! (Yeah, after reading through here, y'all probably have your doubts about that, but he REALLY IS, lol!!!)
Jackie, That is so funny, men aren't they something can't live with and can't live without them. Tell Rachel she not the only one starting. My little one who had 4 teeth cut and pulled came home took a nap and woke and guess what started her monthly too. She was in so many tears. But, we talked it out. She is doing better this a.m. I hope it goes well with Rachel this weekend at camp.
Goodness! Today has been the FIRST day my dd8 has NOT brought up her future period since our "talk". I'm really glad we DID talk so that she will understand what it is when it happens and know what's going on. But, I never intended to make it a thing to obesses about and dread daily for the next 2-4 years until it actually does arrive! Ha! So...shhhhhhhhh, no-one say a word *wink*
If you go to family.org, their are some broadcast about talking to your daughters about purity. I don't know how long they will be there, but I hope it helps
I gotta tell you guys that you are lucky!!! When I started at 12 (and every 28 days after) the only thing my mother told me was "Oh, you started your period." That was IT. I was NEVER told about ANYTHING doing with the "facts of life". I grew up and got engaged at 21 years old. I wound up having to ask my poor embarassed soon to be hubby what the pastor was talking about in marriage counceling (granted, the pastor probably said some things that he shouldn't, but that is another story!) Anyway, I plan to explain things to my daughter just so that she doesn't EVER have to go through that!
My dd11 & I talk about this off & on quite often - I guess it has bult up over the years. It actually feels quite natural and I'm enjoying discussing all kinds of things with her! She is qrowing up, and it's very lovely!! We have been reading "The body book" and "The beauty book". These are both Christian, and have excellent, accurate info in them as well as Godly wisdom - a great combination. They are easy to read and aimed at the 9-14 age group. I am pretty sure they are US publications, so should be pretty easy to find. If you need author/publisher details, let me know and I'll check them & get back to you. Blessing, Karen
