Sommer Keep putting one foot in front of the other. read a good escapist book. Remember a lot of your on edge feelings are hormone induced. (doesn't make it less edgy...but helps some.) I also agree with those who suggest meds. I am definitely not a "dope up the active boys so the kinder teacher can catch a break" proponent. However, I do believe that physiologic problems can have behavioral symptoms and when you have done what you can to correct the behavior then you have to look at the physiologic. Just think how much better Garret will feel when you can say. "here is part of it...your brain/chemicals/food was causing this and now we can help you with it." I also agree that looking into food sensitivities might help. (they are not technically allergies because you don't really break out in hives and have trouble breathing) But some kids do react to artificial flavors/colors and things like that. Garret is old enough to help you sort this out. Explain that you think there might be something that he is eating that is causing him to feel the way he does...have him keep a food diary and a mood diary. (do them at different times of the day and in different books) Then at the end of the week you look at any correlations. (hey SCIENCE PROJECT) See if he has any ideas about what might cause him to feel worse. let him help you shop and plan meals. If he sees the whole family changing habits to try to help him, he will see his value...without having to have all the attention. Just an idea. My prayers are with all of you.
Unless I have walked a mile in your shoes I haven't a clue what you are going through. With that being said, I offer you my prayers, friendship and huggs!
Thanks ladies... yet again. Today, so far has been pretty good actually.. I'm not sure if it's because I'm kind of sleep walking since I was up ALL night long or what, but he is pretty close to willingly cleaning his room...I do have to keep reminding him to get back to his room... but then hey I'm a slacker too when it comes to cleaning (esp lately since it kills me to do anything). And I do have to agree with Becky.. and even Tiffany sees the value of it... sometimes tough love is what a kid needs, no matter how horrible it may seem to an outsider.
None of us really knows what you're going through Sommer but what I think most of us know is that you're a loving and thoughtful mom and we can trust you'll do the best for your family. We can toss out advice and you can use or reject what you choose but ultimately I know, as we all do, you'll do your best and your kids are lucky to have you.
Just reading this and wanted to give you a hug! I am the mother of a bipolar child and our road has been very rough. My advice to you is to keep fighting. If you can't find the help from one doctor seek another. My son was dx with ADHD, ODD and depression first and he was not in the system when this all happened. He was in public school before this and it was a big struggle, he will never go back or a least in our district. We were judged by teacher, principals, special ed dept. and parents. At nine my son had made a suicide threat and that was the last straw for me, he has been home ever since. we tried meds for Adhd and depression which made this worse. Then after 3 years and 2 hospital stays he was finally dx with bipolar and different meds tried which helped. We Still have our rough areas and will probably have to work on this the rest of his life. I just wanted you to know I know how you feel and you are not alone. ((BIG HUGS )) and I will say a pray. If you ever need to talk pm me.
I don't care what the Bible says. And there is such a thing as tough love. The word I used was 'disposable', not indespensable. To me, Garrett needs to see he can't keep doing this to his mom and siblings. I hope Sommer can find whatever it takes to make Garrett see he's got to cut this stuff out.
I do understand he's your child, Sommer. I'm not a total b*tch, lol. But there needs to be a line somewhere.
Sommer, I'm probably asking a question you already answered or explained, but could your doctor refer Garrett to Kennedy Krieger or someplace like that? While I don't remember everywhere we took Kevin for behavior and disability issues, I remember Kennedy Krieger looked at his behavior.
I'm not sure what Kennedy Krieger is.. but the town we live in is home to Geisinger.. the main hospital is here and it seems that unless we drive for several hours to go to Hershey Medical Center pretty much everything is run by Geisinger or is just small time community hospitals/drs that send all patients to Geisinger for anything more extensive than a bandaide. I hate this hospital system.. really I do, we struggled to even find a dr that wasn't part of they system.. it's crazy here.
Sommer, i in no way meant to imply you didnt love your ds with every fiber in your body, i may have misunderstood. I guess, when i originally read your post, i thought the boarding school was like just giving up your child and not really seein him but a couple times a year??I didnt understand that it was a therapy and that you would have plenty of involvement and get him back. I totally believe in tough love, i practice that every day it seems sometimes,lol. but i just meant to be sure he understands you arent giving up on him, even if you feel like giving up right now. I in no way would let him endanger himself or the rest of your family, i just meant, i understand what it feels like to be left and it tears you to the core. I guess, i will never know exactly how you are feeling or what you have gone through, i just thought you wanted our feelings on the matter. I trully hope you can forgive me, i wasnt trying to make you feel worse. I am sorry, i should have just not posted, bc i have a strong emotion towards this topic. Becky, when you said you werent a total B**ch, i hope you didnt think i thought you were?? I just meant, yes make him cut the crap, and see what he is doing is not going to be tolerated, but just as long as he knows you are still there for him. I would never expect someone to totally understand where i am coming from, bc they have never walked in my shoes either, so im sorry if i came off harsh or snide, i just sort of traveled back in time and that feeling of being left and unloved and not good enough enveloped me and i lashed out i guess. i trully have no prob with you and i get what you are saying, i just let it get personal. sorry.
Not really. When I looked for a new urologist, they were all in the same group! I had to look out of state.
ugg.. we can't afford to go out of state for anything.. we are a 3-4 hour drive from the east and south borders, a 5 hour drive to the north and 6-7 hours to the west border... who knew PA was such a huge state..lol.
oh, he had some schoolwork to fix... I want to just hand in his whole mathbook.. so I figured the things we just talked about he needs to fix. I told him about it last night.. this morning already he asked me for the list of things I wanted fixed in the book and took it to his room to work on it!
Sounds like he is cooperating this morning. I was curious, do you think he is jealous of the new baby coming?
I dont' think he is very jealous of this baby... not anywhere near as jealous as he was of Reagan and Rylee. Rylee he wasn't jealous of until she was here.. he is still very jealous of the two of them, and tries hard to get them in trouble.. but that is typical sibling type stuff... my brother was the same way of me... in fact my brother would do things and tell my mom I did them, and I took the punishment for them... sadly I was a goody goody kid and just took the punishment. He wants to play on his computer today.. I think that is his motivation for being good this morning. He is supposed to be grounded from his computer and xbox... but if he is willing to be good I just might allow him an hour or 2 on his computer.
:love:I was the goody goody kid too. My sister also did stuff and then told my parents that I did it. After awhile you just resign yourself to the fact that your life would be this way until you were 18 and moved out.
Yeah.. he moved out when I was 13.. then for some strange reason raising my sister who is 8 year younger than me got dumped on my lap.. I moved out at 17. I was still a JR in highschool when I left home.
